Why You Should Only Use Things As A Guide To Make Your Own Decisions

Everyone has them. What am I talking about? Opinions.

How many of us have gone through the internet, looking for answers or even made a phone call or several of them only to receive conflicting information? I’m guilty of having done that and I continue to be to a certain extent. In today’s market and yes, I’ve said, “market” there is only that…opinions. Worse than that, the net is tailored or censored to any opinion that differs from theirs. I’m no exception to that rule except that I don’t run the net (heaven forbid that I do that) and I’m NOT trying to censor it to my opinion. After all…everyone has their own opinions.

The other thing that I’ve found is that people/companies will try to sell us all something including on their opinions.

Say for instance, one were to work or even believe that a certain dog food or cat food is in their opinions “the best”? They are going to push that item or items made by the same company right? What if your pet is allergic (heaven forbid though many are allergic to something) to say, “chicken” and “beef” but that person(s) advocate for that “chicken” or “beef” formulation? It may make it their preference for one reason or another but, it’s not at all for your pet, is it? What it makes it is (a) ok for their pet(s) and/or (b) it’s because they work for that company.

A little further down the list of products to purchase, there’s for example, a type of running shoe. The person pushing that is partial to that brand but, your arches are falling and therefore, that particular shoe/brand won’t suit that shoe. What is one to do? Well, I’d say to stay away from it altogether and to heck with that person’s personal preferences/push because it may make them either right, richer or both, right?

What about the person who is pushing for one to buy “raw” dog food and looking that person up elsewhere, one is to find out that this person (who shall remain nameless for obvious reasons) works for a large company that produces “raw” dog food. Is that truly their opinion or that of the manufacturer’s? Well, it’s a bit of both. Perhaps, this person/professional truly believes that based upon prior knowledge or even experiences, that this type of dog food is the best. Meanwhile, they may be wanting to keep a “job” with that company and that place makes money off of every sale everywhere it’s distributed in the world. Does that make this professional or those who advocate its use correct? For you and your lifestyle or pet, it may and yet it may not.

I’m not just talking about dog food/pet food here. I’m talking about your particular circumstances and the net, some professional’s opinion and even conflicting topics that can be found on everything and everywhere. What works for one, doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s the “best” for you or something else that you’re trying to ascertain information about. It only makes it good for those who it works for in one way or another and most of the information is contradictory at best or leads one to keep their “jobs”.

In other words, they are getting something from their endorsement(s) of something in some way or another even if they aren’t conscious of doing something. They are in effect, getting something in some way and that’s why you and others will find contradictions if one were to look closely enough.

One can call those who differ in what’s considered “popular opinion” as “conspiracy theorists” or whatever else one may ascribe it to but in today’s world, are those who have a difference of opinion to yours, really that or close to it or is it all simply their opinions?

Each person has to be the judge for themselves and their particular circumstances. Even those who call themselves an “expert” is only that because of (1) what they’ve learned in school(s), (2) what their personal opinions are at the moment and (3) what money they make or are willing to by-pass like a conscience in order to make that money or keep that job.

Even I have changed opinions over the years and with experience. That’s part of what one could call, growth. However, I don’t expect that everyone is going to take up my personal opinions anymore than I will take up someone else’s. That’s a “fact”.

One may for instance, look up something and find that there are 19 “opinions” on the topic and choose number 20 for their purposes. As an example, try looking up how often to wash your hair. Not only will it net you 10 different results at first glance but they will all be contradictory or they will try to sell you something that they, themselves are benefitting from or even just like. I can tell you that it will all vary according to their personal opinion(s)/reason(s) for saying so. Yet, come back to the same thing about a year from now and their opinions can change greatly. Say for the sake of argument that a certain site or whatever it may be that you’re “consulting” says that washing your hair 3 times a week is “bad” for you and you should be washing it every day. What about those who say, it will “dry out your hair” to wash it every day. What if you have oily hair for instance versus dry and curly/course hair? To top it off, that site/person is trying to sell everyone who enters it a “commercial” for a certain shampoo?

What about Advertisements? Do they have an agenda? Yes, of course they do. Or, the internet or whatever personal sources you ask, could be “censored” in some way or for some reason that suits them or that of a government.

From my little corner of life to yours, take everything said or advertised to you with a “grain of salt” and do or use what suits you. Don’t go by anyone else’s preferences because that’s all that it is. Use or buy or do what is in YOUR best interests and take everything given to you as a “guide” only. What works for one person for instance, will not/may not work for you. Take even what I say with a grain of salt. It’s only a “guide” with which to make your own personal decisions based upon your particular circumstances and for heaven’s sakes, do NOT do anything differently with anyone, including a doctor. They change their minds too and do not know it all either. Do what’s right for you and what suits your needs firstly.

Best of wishes!

Love and Light!

Censorship, Opinions & More

Opinons and censorship, facts and studies, the world of turbulent waters.

Why write anything towards anything if it’s all either going to be “censored”, removed or sold off on “lists”? Isn’t “censorship” enough? Apparently, not!

What isn’t “censored or removed” are only “opinions”, including mine. That’s all that anything is. Can you ask a say, “doctor” about their car or their house repairs/renovations or otherwise? While it’s possible to ask, it isn’t likely that they will know what the heck to do about much. Their opinions are just that…opinions and that goes for their “expertise” so to speak on medical stuff too. Does it make them right? No, it makes it their book learning and experience versus another doc who may or may not agree with their opinions or based upon different countries and their own book learned information.

The same holds true for Politicians too. Are they always correct or do they have agendas too? Yes! They have “agendas” too and, their opinions while pretty words are tossed around are just that, words. In other words, it’s an opinion only.

What about the “news” on television? Isn’t it “real”? No! It’s slanted towards an “agenda” too. How is that meant? It’s meant that the “news” is decided upon by ratings and “anchors” get or keep their jobs by reading it. That’s why you’ll rarely have hard hitting so to speak, anchors or what have you. They only have a certain amount of time to present a topic and to keep their jobs, they are censored too.

Is it to be accepted? No! One has to recognize that every living creature on this planet, especially, humans, have a “reason” for why they do what they do or don’t. None of us are without prejudice of some kind or another and mostly, it’s to sell us all something, make money as we all have to do (some more than others and greed comes into play here too).

Whether it be to keep a “job” that puts a roof over heads (some more luxurious than others) or food and meds on a table or shelf, one has to make money and frankly…the opinions are all that anyone has unless it’s a fact which will change with every day or even decades. It’s all about greed, or need but, it’s all about “opinions” which will change as the need changes or as “facts” change and “no one is buying it anymore” type of idea.

From my little corner of life to yours, whether it be a Lifestyle of the luxurious type or a meagre existence, everything becomes a “need” and there are plenty of “opinions” on everything from soup to nuts. Remember that all anything is could be only an opinion based upon either their own experiences/needs to out and out lies in order to keep things coming their way.

Keep that in mind whenever you are in that position of decisions and make it the best one for you given what you know at that time. Ok? Ok!

Stay well.

Love and Light!

I Don’t Feel SECURE About Healthcare Or Anything Now

I feel insecure about Healthcare and everything now!

Try getting ahold of a doctor nowadays in Canada. It’s not only delayed greatly but going to see them could be dangerous for you and them if they are there and IF they are seeing patients or IF they haven’t quit or been forced out of practise.

We all know too that the College Of Physicians and Surgeons is run by a pile of soft skulls to put it mildly. Not only won’t much happen to those who are working but being handed a bunch of papers that mean nothing is like watching the News or mainstream media or listening to a whack of politicians.

Add to it the fact that at least in Ontario, the healthcare system has been cut and more cuts along with every other faction going and we have the “perfect storm” for a Healthcare Nightmare along with people working it that are tired out or burned out or those who have never laid hands on a patient before or have little experience.

We have a perfect reason to be more than upset when those in charge of major hospitals are telling us to “stay away” from Urgent Care or other places and people working them are NOT seeing patients who may or may not have Covid.

If we want to get technical about things too, we are being fed FEAR by the media and censored so silly with no place to go but to a hospital that may or may not accept us because of worries about Covid.

Let’s look at a parent who has tried and tried to get ahold of their child’s doctor and been unsuccessful in them returning a message left for them. What choice does that parent have except to go to a hospital with their child? There are literally NONE especially when the child is getting worse and worse.

Gone are the days of people who could take their child to their own doctors of choice, a walk-in clinic or other source of healthcare. It’s going to the hospital where they have a LONG wait to be seen IF in fact, they are seen by someone who knows what they are doing. This is NOT to put down anyone who is willing to work in a hospital for Bless Them is all that I can say. However, do I feel “secure” now? NO! Should anyone feel “secure” about the healthcare that is able to be gotten? No!

The reality is that there are people who are with cancers and other illnesses that could take/end their lives or make their lives more difficult who cannot be operated on because of this virus and the politicians who are more interested in an old and outdated “vaccines” that they have bought already, “vaccine” and people are people, including healthcare professionals. Who wants to work during this type of thing or fear or stress along with gas prices and other things in either short supply or going up, up, up in price? No One or not many! That’s the answer.

Who is behind our healthcare systems? People are and they’ve been told and told via emails that they are to follow the “rules”.

Is it any wonder then that in Canada, with a rogue Prime Minister who evokes the Emergencies Act to save his own skin and a healthcare system that’s in a shambles that people like me don’t feel “secure” about it?

Let’s worry about other things like the Indigenous People’s and Press Opportunities and such.

Why worry or even think about the fact that Canada can’t fight it’s way out of a wet paper bag should push come to shove or send anything except money and dentures to throw at others? It would rely upon other countries in the world, especially the U.S. for “protection” against all different causes.

Meanwhile, Canadians have a “pretty boy” as Prime Minister whose past is flawed greatly and we’re not going to get into that here.

Add to it all that Canadians have strikes galore, deaths from other sources, mental health issues for all ages and we can look upon Canada as not even having enough to put into defence spending, water issues that have been going on for years or decades now and won’t be out of trouble until at least 2025 while Pretty Boy Trudeau is like a kid in a candy shop with a blank cheque or check book to treat his “friends” or goes into hiding at the first sign of trouble like the Freedom Trucker’s convoy where he and wife and kids were alleged to be whisked away to an undisclosed location? Why isn’t Canada becoming part of the U.S.? Trudeau may lose his job as Prime Minister?

From my little corner of life to yours, I’m becoming edgy and fearful or insecure about healthcare and mark my words, as gas prices go up and up and up and carbon taxes and other taxes go wild, Canada is headed for a 2 tier system of health. Just wait and see!

Best of wishes! Be well, stay well.

Love and Light!

Will Smith Has Resigned From The Academy But What About Jada’s Punishment Too Now

Is The Oscar Episode of slapping Rock going to come back to bite them or what?

So, Will Smith has allegedly resigned from his membership in the Academy? HA! What do you want to bet that it was to avoid actions against him and why oh why has he NOT apologized to Rock by phone or in person? Why do it through a paid “staffer” on Instagram? Are there no phones in CA? I’ve heard from a few people from CA so, why if Smith is so “sorry” has he NOT called Rock?

Secondly, if this wasn’t “staged” why has it taken Rock so long to respond or even “digest” or shall we say, come to grips with Smith’s alleged hit?

Something is not right here with this entire thing, including Jada’s admittance that she loves her bald head as is? What about her facial expressions told Smith to walk up on that stage after him having laughed at Rock’s “mild joke” and allegedly “slap” Rock in the face?

It’s no secret that many people have already “reacted” to the incident immediately or the next day. Why oh why couldn’t Rock react too then?

Rock didn’t react because it wasn’t real. Even if it was, he was able to utter the phrase, “WOW” right away and keep on ticking without missing a beat. He wasn’t stunned by it. Why should anyone else be including me?

How much does one want to bet that Smith becomes a “member” again of the Academy and that Rock is laughing himself sh*tless all the way to the bank for his show of comedy at differing theatres where ticket prices have gone way up and beyond Pandemic levels by some 3 to 10 times the amount?

Up in Canada, a “Cabinet Member” appointed by Ontario Premiere, Doug Ford (a known liar for his brother, Rob Ford and aider) lied about his whereabouts in an elaborate scheme that involved Ford too. It wasn’t until emails were made public that Ford was alleged to fire this person from cabinet and yet, after a few months in moth balls so to speak, he was brought back into cabinet by Ford as a Minister of one of the most controversial positions that one could imagine, lies and all. That was after the military gave a scathing report on this area asked for by Ford/his cabinet. What the heck is going on?

It’s the almighty “BUCK” that’s at play here and so are the Canadians pawns in their chess game.

So, what about Rock and Smith?

It’ll come out in time that this was all concocted by Smith or both of them or it will be Jada’s fault or someone else’s but, Rock certainly is showing us all that either he’s the toughest guy on the planet (move over fighters) or, that Will/Rock or both aren’t as sincere as they’d have everyone believe. Either way, something is amiss in this entire story between the 2 of them and they both need some form of therapy. Both men have pasts that were questionable at the best of times, let alone during a “lockdown” or otherwise for over 2 years now.

From my little corner of life to yours, the questions will be “when will this come out” and “does Jada need something done to her now too?” I suspect that things will get straightened out and Jada needs to be banned too or like her husband (if one can call him that), RESIGN if she is a member of the Academy too.

Love and Light!

Was The Rock-Smith “Slap” Real Or Wasn’t It

Was the “Slap Heard Around The World” Real or not?

Yes, I’m still at it. The Will Smith-Chris Rock “slap”. Was it real or was it staged?

Well, let’s take a look at it.

1. The ratings were in the toilet and this was Hollywood.

2. Where was security? Why didn’t they intervene at least after the fact?

3. Can anyone get up from the seats and walk on stage? What about the “seat fillers”? Can they do it too and not be stopped?

4. What about “protection” for a Comedian that the Academy Awards hired to present an Oscar? Where were they?

5. Does that mean that everyone who doesn’t like something a presenter says, in alleged “defence of a ‘wife'”, just walk up on stage and assault the jokester?

6. What does this say about Will and Jada’s “open marriage”?

7. Since when does someone commit a “crime” and be able to “refuse” to leave? What about police? Why aren’t they charging Will with a Crime? Never mind, Chris Rock who alleges that “he didn’t want the hassles”?

8. If you’re so affected and wonder whether you’ll be invited back again to the AA’s, why party afterwards like it’s 1999? And, what about Chris Rock who was just assaulted?

9. Why give someone who just allegedly committed a “crime” (said so by many and a lawyer or two), a “standing ovation” for an award after being asked to leave and refusing?

10. What is there for Comedian Chris Rock to “digest” days later? IF he was allegedly assaulted by Smith…why didn’t he say to himself, this was a horrible atrocity from Smith and I’m not going to take this? Why is it taking him so long to come to terms with Smith’s actions if it was truly “real”?

11. The mildest of jokes where Rock had considered Jada before saying it, was that he “loved her” first. Why did he do that? Could it be that he didn’t write it all by himself and KNEW that it would set off this so-called, “slap”?

12. Yes, I’m getting to the nitty gritty here…why didn’t Smith punch Rock…not a slap?

13. What set Smith off (he was laughing at Rock’s jokes all along as evidenced by the camera on him and Jada). While many have hypothesized that it was Jada’s emotional reaction to the joke, I beg to differ in ways that others may not agree with. After all, this is Hollywood and anything can look “real” if they want it to do so. Yes, even a so-called “slap”.

14. Are there NO phones in CA? Why “apologize” to Rock via someone who is hired to do so/a publicist on a venue that isn’t personal at all? Why not call the person yourself if you’re truly that sorry? Wouldn’t you say that this would be the right thing to do? I would! Why leave this all up to someone you’ve hired to write in a public venue and Rock still needs to “digest” this “incident”?

15. Will’s tears looked “real” in his acceptance speech but he’s an ACTOR. Could it be that he worried about what he looked like during this fiasco? Was he really, crying because he’d WON and not about what he’d just done? Why worry about whether or not they’d invite him back again to the AA’s at that point?

However, why don’t we take a look at what Rock did during and afterwards?

1. Rock didn’t even utter an “ouch” or do anything about it except to “joke” that it was tv history? He didn’t seem phased by it and perhaps, the small man, hands behind his back, is tough and belongs in the UFC? Who knows except them? Why though, didn’t he miss a beat in even saying “wow”?

2. When Smith was asked to “leave” allegedly, did he get to stay on and partied like it was 1999 afterwards and Rock went on to another “After Party” to party like he wasn’t party to it all by Smith? One might say that he’d just WON an Oscar for his performance in “King Richard” and was “celebrating” but, at Rock’s expense? How “mild” a joke could he have made? How many times did he need to say that he loved Jada before he spoke that joke?

3. Was it a case of the Security not knowing what they were doing or was it all a schtick and Smith explained it to them? I’d say that there either wasn’t any security or they lacked greatly or they didn’t know what they were doing. What’s that saying about their “jobs” for Rock then and making sure that no one came up on stage after him.

4. Why is it that Rock has not only sold out all of his shows but, prices for tickets that aren’t being used are going for 3 to 10 times their amount now? Could it be Rock laughing all the way to the bank while not able to “digest” it all?

5. Rock stood to “GAIN” by this little venture but, Smith stood to lose or so it seems? Is it really that way?

Now, let’s take a look at Smith and what HE stood to gain from it all?

1. Could it be that all eyes were on him and publicity is publicity…damn the AA’s. Bad publicity is still Publicity even if he temporarily wears the black hat.

2. Who is to say that Rock, when he’s finished “digesting” this all (meaning that he’s finished his tour of comedy and has made a sh*t load of money) isn’t going to say that it WAS all part of it and made up by Smith and himself in order to make up for what Jada and Will had done to previous awards?

3. Is Will Smith and his wife, if you can call her that now that we all know more about their “open marriage”, finished at the AA’s and know that they won’t return anyway? Why would Will be so worried about the Academy accepting him at future ceremonies if he had boycotted them because he hadn’t won before?

4. Did he KNOW about the award coming his way because of Rock and “owed” him?

5. With controversy added to his name now/until Rock “digests” it all, will they have him back again or will Rock clear it all up the same way that Smith did via “public forum” and said by someone hired to do so where Will can again be asked back to not only the AA’s but he will be hired by everyone with a “look what it looked like to so many” type of thing?

My bet is that this “meeting” isn’t going to net a thing from the Academy and that will be proof to me that it wasn’t real and was put on by the 2 of them. If on the other hand, the Academy redacts (a term used frequently nowadays) a certain “action” towards Smith later on, they will again be proving that it wasn’t real.

Did the Academy goof up? YES! Security was either not there, it wasn’t real or they are waiting on Rock to “digest” (yes, I know that this has been said far too often) what happened and “respond”? Does it mean that this year’s AA’s were so far down in the ratings that they had to resort to this type of thing/antic in order to have people talking about it?

From my little corner of life to yours, as I’ve said, I will not be watching any further AA’s or their “pre-shows” no matter what. They’ve all tested my resolve and real or not, the reality is that it was one rotten stunt that has me questioning everything now.

Be Well. Stay well.

Love and Light!

Why Did My Adult(s) Estrange & What Do I Do Now

Will my child ever come back into my life and what now?

Did you constantly hit your estranged adult child? How about telling them that they were stupid on a regular basis or at all? Did you think only of yourself or did you think that your poop didn’t smell bad or that you were the only one? How about the idea that you’ve had a blow-out with your adult child that was occurring every day or almost all of the time? And, what about just about anything that they could come up with to justify their disappearance from your life?

I know that I didn’t do that. I placed her first and I only thought of myself AFTER her needs were taken care of, gave her everything that I could afford regularly, gave up my time and energy as most of you have done and yet, here we are…estranged. Is that my fault? Is it wrong to have done? The answer to that question is up to you and of course, others or even therapists who have only heard one point/side of the story…theirs or in my case, ours as parents.

What do they want then?

They want parents to be as they would like them to be or to swallow their side of things and to blame us all later when either they change their minds as will happen or they do something different and yes, parents will get the blame for it all no matter what is done or not done.

Why the word “estranged” then? Why not the phrasing “alienating” themselves?

Good question. I’m glad that I thought of it. The reason that people use “estrange” is because it may not sound as harsh and besides, a lot of the “experts” who have been wrong about so much already, have phrased it this way. It infers that our now formally adult children have just temporarily distanced themselves and will come around again. Is that true? Will they come around?

While I’d love to say, yes, to that question, the truth is that it depends upon so many factors that I’d prefer the term “alienation” rather than estrangement.

Why do I say that? Well, let’s look at someone who has adult children/an adult child who has been “estranged” for 10 or more years. Are they “estranged” or “alienated”? I’d say that it’s more than likely “alienation” than it is “estrangement”.

Does that mean that my adult child is never coming back into my life again then?

That would depend on a lot of different criteria, wouldn’t it? If your now adult child needs or wants something and where they are getting that something from or whatever your circumstances may be.

If for instance, your now adult child has a substance issue and they are getting that from someone else or say it’s money or ideals or whatever, the truth is that they aren’t coming back to you if you don’t provide them with whatever it is that they are getting from others. That can be an ex or their families or whatever. It can even range from support for something that they want from others of any kind/type and even if they hate them or don’t like them truly.

So, can I get my child back into my life again by giving them what they want?

Be aware that as one commenter put it, “no one would want to do this for sh*ts and giggles”. No, one would not do it for that reason but they’d do it because they are “brainwashed” by the lure of something or other, wouldn’t they? Or perhaps they are mentally ill? Whatever is your circumstances, we as parents cannot be what they want us to be lest we get blamed when that something that they want at the time or need from others or ideals or substances or whatever it is that they want, changes. We will take the blame for “accepting” their “wants” as much or more as it caused them to “alienate” themselves. Don’t believe me? If you want your adult child back into your life again, try changing your beliefs and yourself and see for yourself in time. Chances are good that you and others who do this type of thing will get blamed or they will be facing a new “alienation” unless they grow up and face reality. Again, if you wish to try it, do so. See if what I’ve said doesn’t come to fruition if it’s possible to do for you that is.

I’ve said it before and I’m going to say it again.

There’s an older song by Bonnie R. that says, “I can’t make you love me if you don’t. I can’t make your heart feel something it won’t”.

Therefore, sending letters of “love” and reaching out to them, isn’t going to work to bring them back to the fold. We, as parents, can’t make anything happen by cards, gifts or letters of “love”. We can’t make them feel something that they won’t by these actions can we or if we can, by constant contact? Try it if you haven’t already and see for yourselves if it works or it doesn’t. Just remember that for you and them, it may be a few months to a year but really, even if it has been 10 years the clock starts ticking all over again. For them, it’s only been however long since your possible last contact and not 10 years for instance.

It’s NOT a matter of them wanting time to pass as much as it is about them.

Time means nothing to these adults. It doesn’t exist and remember that they “hate” you for their own reasons or dislike you at best. Whether that be because of a “friend” or other person or thing in their lives, it doesn’t matter. All that matters to them is that they follow whatever it is that they’ve come to believe about you or perhaps, their siblings. You nor I can make a difference no matter what we do or don’t do with cards or letters or even “gifts” to grandchildren. You likely won’t even hear about it all if they don’t want you to know, right? Truth is that they don’t want you to know in most cases because they dislike you or some facet of you or your life.

How can I be saying that they don’t like us?

It’s not “us” per say that they don’t like but rather what someone or something else has given to them or will or promises to give that they want. In short, it’s about them and them alone that matter to them now and make no mistake about it. Yes, we all gave far too much to them and I’m not talking about material things as much as I’m talking about love and care even if you were a “single parent” or whatever it is that was promised to them that they want.

Most of us are in our “golden years” and you may be saying to yourself or even outright….”but, what if I die?”

The truth is that we are all going to die some day. Every living thing on this planet will die at some point or another. “That’ll show them”, you may be saying while you hope or not for death. “They will be sorry then!”

My question to you and even has been of myself is “really?” How will we know? Will we know? How will it serve them right and even more to the point, will they even care? “Of course, they will” you might be saying. “They will see what it’s like then to not have answers to things that they want to know! They will know then what it’s like to be without…(fill in the blanks here).”

Again, I’d have to ask the question of “really?” What makes you so sure? Just because you thought that way about your own parents doesn’t make it true about them, does it? The truth is that they don’t care for one reason or another otherwise, they wouldn’t be away from you, would they?

Every generation has it’s own set of issues and our adult children have their own. If you were one way with your own parents, don’t expect that your “alienated adult child” is going to feel the same way as you did or do. They don’t. They are about themselves or whatever it is that they are out for and you, my dears, are simply in the way of them getting it.

So, what do I do with myself then?

It may be that you and only you can figure it all out. What works for one person doesn’t work for another so, strategies about what to do have to be experimented with. One thing that comes out of every story is that we weren’t put on earth to be parents nor are we here to serve anyone’s needs. That means that you and only you can figure out what works for you.

For some people, it may be “charity work” or it could be that cleaning is all that you know and works for you. For others, it could be that doing online puzzles or making something is your forte and works but, generally, we need “purpose” in our lives and frankly, doing for someone else hasn’t worked, right? By that, I mean for our “alienated adults”.

Most people don’t have some sort of “great” purpose to their lives. They live for the moment and will never accomplish anything of great value to mankind. Going to work in order to pay bills is the most that they will ever accomplish. Even actors/actresses/musicians will be forgotten even if they’ve entertained many people, won’t they? Look at some of the most famous people or events that were remembered by some will have been questioned by others at some point or another. Look at some of the “greats” that have departed from this planet now. How many times have you or someone else tried to tell a younger generation or other what they meant to you only to have them say “who?”. How about the Holocaust or the Moon Landing where they say that these were made up things either by people or Hollywood or weren’t “real”. Purpose is what has meaning to each individual person. Are your “adults” making a mark on Society that will never be forgotten by many people at all times? No! They may think that they are but are they? Only you can be honest with yourself and likely in discovery, say, “no!” too.

So, what do I do with myself?

What if you’d never had any children? Beyond working to make a buck, what would you have done in that case? Can’t imagine that scenario? Pat yourself on the back for putting another human being on this planet and raising them firstly. Even if they don’t acknowledge it, they are on this planet and alive thanks to you. If they are lucky enough to reach your age now, they will get older and perhaps, feeble too. No one of us escapes that much even if we keep more limber at later stages of Life than the generation previously did.

Secondly, ask yourself what means something to you and I’m not talking about cleaning the hall closet or other cleaning unless that’s what floats your boat then, go for it. At the least, it will distract you.

If sleeping the day away has meaning to you…do it! If for instance, taking a “bubble bath” does it for you, do it although, we can all only take so many bubble baths in a day before our skin turns pruny, right? And, what afterwards?

Your purpose is NOT to serve your now “adult child”. It may have been what you placed importance on once upon a time but they don’t or haven’t and would you really want that type of person in your life anyway? Don’t fool yourself. Doing, doing and more catering to them is a “purpose” and was something that has been done but that time has passed now. Do something for you…even if that means shopping until you drop and not buying much if anything. Woodwork if that makes you feel happier? Play hockey or golf or whatever. Just try anything that makes you feel that you have some sort of purpose, even if that purpose only lasts for 10 minutes or an hour. Move onto something else. Do anything that you can do. Try things until you find something that you feel is worth it to you but do NOT think that your life revolves around “caregiving”. While it once did, it doesn’t anymore and that doesn’t go for our alienated adults either. It goes for everything. How many jobs have you had and what are you remembered for doing by anyone other than those who you worked for or with?

While not many have any money nowadays to spend, try focusing on you and what your priorities are. Is it making money? If so, go for it! That’s your “purpose” right there. Start up a company even online but, like me, don’t expect that making any money will come to you at all. Do it for you because you enjoy it or need the cash. I don’t happen to make a cent off of anything that I do but, I do it because of NOT the money that I don’t make but because I have a lot to say and I hope that I’m helping others in the process. I will NOT make a cent off of this or anything that I do because I’m not willing to compromise my principles for the almighty buck at this.

From my little corner of Life to yours, try to see what makes you happy beyond chasing after a child/children who don’t want any part of you or who have a mental health issue or who have pledged allegiance to something or someone through constant nagging, talking or some “expert”. Live for YOU. Find your purpose which differs from person to person and let me know what you’ve found as a “purpose” for yourself even if that doesn’t float my boat or isn’t my cup of tea.

Be well and stay well.

Love and Light!

There Are WIGS Jada If You’re That Self-Conscious Or Will Is

What Did Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith Teach Everyone? Someone tell her that there are WIGS if she’s that sensitive and ban both of them from the Academy Awards

Was Will Smith justified in “defending” his wife’s Alopecia? No!

Why do I say that? I say that because it teaches people or anyone younger who watched this and let’s say that there are likely plenty of younger folk who watched at least the replays of it, that it’s ok to solve things with both violent actions and a mouth!

Someone send or suggest that Jada Pinkett Smith buy herself a “wig” please if she’s that upset about it?

A LOT of “Black Women” wear them (wigs) so, why not her? She can afford one or 20 of them or more, can’t she?

If for instance, she was ok with her head as was said by a paid staffer in either Instagram or Twitter, then shut the hell up about it and do NOT show it on your face. Your husband, Will was laughing at everything until YOU showed him otherwise.

Let’s not put the sole blame on Jada though. Let’s put the blame on the husband, Will Smith who did the violent act of hitting/slapping Chris Rock and with his words.

What was essentially done via this is NOT a case of Alopecia but of needing a gun to defend oneself now. Security certainly didn’t do so and I can say that his actions took away from others who received Oscars both before and afterwards away. How selfish can he and his open marriage to Jada get?

If we were to take this one step further, it takes away from all of those who have either no choice but to lose their “crowning glories” to Chemo/cancer treatments or others who have had no other recourse. It even takes away from those who have a form of Male Pattern Baldness or those who have shaved their heads like Sinead O’Connor for other reasons. In short, both Will and his “wife” (If you can call her that with an open marriage) took away from those that have no choice in losing their hair or those who have chosen to do so.

So, what? Jada has Alopecia. I didn’t know it and likely millions of other people or more didn’t know it either. Even had she had cancer (heaven forbid) and was going through some form of treatment for it, it still takes away from others who have lost their hair. What’s that saying to them all?

It’s saying to me that only Jada and her Alopecia matter. That’s what it’s saying and had Will not won his Oscar, she (Jada) would have been complaining about that too. She’s done it before and so has Will.

I’d love to blame this on so many things like the Pandemic but I can’t. I can only blame Will and Jada and their offspring for their actions or words or whatever. They are what they are, right?

From my little corner of life to yours, do NOT take Will or his “wife”, Jada as examples for your own life. Someone tell Jada that if she’s that sensitive about her hair loss, there are such things as wigs and she can afford them. Besides, Will or she probably are used to her head by now. Rock did say, that he loved her and went on to throw a joke that he didn’t write necessarily. Others did.

Which reminds everyone. What would Will do at a “Roast”? Would he hit/smack the roaster too? Uhhhh….

Be well. Stay well.

Love and Light!

Why I Won’t Be Watching The Academy Awards Anymore

I Wil NOT watch the Academy Awards Anymore Because of this man and his blooming trouble making wife, Jada!

Every major network and online source, including Twitter, has a clip of Will Smith allegedly smacking Chris Rock over what is alleged to have been the joke that Jada Smith (no, I won’t dignify her with her middle name and Will Smith married her, the imperfect meet the imperfect) before winning an Oscar for his performance in “King Richard” speech which was far too long to begin with. One could only see Smith cry so many times before one wants to tear his eyes out.

This is about why:

1. I won’t be watching or even listening about any future Oscars no matter how low the ratings may go for them

2. Why both Smiths should be banned from taking part in any Academy Awards or any other ceremony in the future.

It’s no secret that even well before Jada was “diagnosed” with her hair condition, she was TROUBLE and frankly, Will proved it with either his impromptu skit or a real hit/smack of Comedian Chris Rock.

There have been many years of Jada’s antics over the Awards and her husband, Will’s nominations. Sour Grapes perhaps?

No matter how you slice it, the Smiths are trouble. Perhaps, they have some sort of contract with the Academy (which I highly doubt) to cause a controversy? If that’s the case or possible one, the Academy had better wake up to the fact that it’s not only NOT working but it’s backfiring in their faces. It’s akin to shooting oneself in the foot to spite the toes. It’s driving people away from watching and even talking about it.

I don’t know about you but, most people, including me, didn’t see most of the movies nominated due to politicians and other’s fear-mongering about Covid and the resultant Pandemic. Did you see them all? I know that I didn’t see even one of them and it’s not that I didn’t watch but how does one do it while “Stay-At-Home Orders” were put into place during a pandemic or curfews or laws etc. were put into place? In short, the Awards were the least of my preferences at the moment with a war going on in the Ukraine and a global pandemic happening that may or may not be made worse because of politicians, Big Pharma and such.

Poor little RICH folk, no matter what the colour of their skin is, with lavish houses, wearing designers on their backs and standing in front of flashing cameras. I feel sorry for them all, don’t you even during a Pandemic and being able to wear and pose with designers on their backs.

“I’m wearing….(fill in the blank designers)”

What? They’re wearing entire designers on their bodies? And, here we are worried about a War in Ukraine, people starving, gas prices going up, getting a job and they’re telling everyone with a camera or microphone of any consequence or news channel what they are wearing while posing on the Red Carpet? While most of us are worried that our next meal won’t be on the table, they are concerned about telling the world which designer they are wearing and what camera to pose for? Something is wrong with this picture. Don’t you see it?

I mean, yes, it’s a “distraction” for sure but why wouldn’t one turn it over to something else that is competing with the Awards Ceremony in order to “distract themselves”?

Let’s get to the nitty-gritty of this entire debacle. Either it was thrown in at the last moment or it was real but Rock certainly proved one thing. He could take a slap/punch (whichever one wants to call it) and still keep on smiling and not miss a beat. Look at Will Smith laughing at the jokes and NO, I don’t care how he explains it away or how many tears he sheds, Rock should have pressed charges of assault on Smith and his creepy wife who has stirred up previous fusses over these awards. Why even show up to them if they are considered that bad except for the fact that her husband was “nominated” for it?

IF in fact, Denzel Washington said the things that he’s alleged to have said in an attempt to “comfort” Smith, there needs to be an investigation out of Will first, Jada secondly and even Washington or anyone who tried to “comfort” Smith after his actions. Was this a Black person on Black person thing? I’ve seen it happen before so, why not again? Why doesn’t an Asian or Caucasian or Latino defend another of the same persuasion then? Do they? I haven’t seen it anymore than I have seen one cultural, race or whatever defend another person or people from their races and why should it be done? Does every person like someone else because they are from the same group automatically? Why didn’t Will hit or smack anyone else who made fun of anyone, including himself or his wife? Maybe, they would have pressed charges on him and his little wife too? Who knows and frankly…who cares?

The reality is that no matter how far down the awards ceremony goes in the ratings, I will not be watching them from here on out or until or unless they BAN Jada and Will and anyone else who causes issues from the ceremonies.

Be Well.

Stay well.

Love and Light!

Why WWIII Isn’t Likely

Is Vladmir Putin Afraid of Covid but will push the nuclear button? Why WWIII will likely not be happening.

Why won’t Putin be likely to start WWIII? Besides doing less than stellar in Ukraine and its take over, Putin is afraid of Covid. That’s evidenced in many ways which mean that he’s afraid of dying.

Have you ever watched Putin sitting at a 30′ long table or so? If so, you’ve likely seen that he’s on one end and the other person is on the other end of it. What is that saying to you?

At first, and in isolation alone, it said to me that he’s being a bit of a Diva and has lavish furnishings to go with his wealth. Further inspection and research however has shown him to be AFRAID of catching or getting Covid-19. Aren’t we all? Or, shall I say that no one wants to be sick with a cold or flu or otherwise?

After a couple of years though, is it reasonable to think that no one will catch a “cold” of sorts and be good and sick with it because our immune systems have gone down the tubes and colds aren’t used to being gotten by many if any?

I digress though. Back to Putin and WWIII.

Does it stand to reason that for someone who is afraid to catch or get such an ailment such as Covid-19 is said to be that he’s going to hit that “nuclear code”? After all, Putin knows full well that he’s going to die because other countries are going hit their “nuclear buttons” as well because they are going to die.

If I were a betting person, taking over the Ukraine was no walk in the park for Russia and it’s still up in the air as to whether or not he can do it, I’d bet that Putin didn’t count on the uprising and fighting during a Pandemic no less that Ukraine has given to Russia. Furthermore, I’d bet that he is counting on the rest of the world, coming into this conflict and for all intents and purposes, they are part of it in terms of “sanctions” or will be sooner or later. I’d be willing to bet that Putin wants an easy takeover and he’s not getting that, is he?

Far be it from me to determine what strategists are more credentialed to do but, does it seem that a man who is afraid of dying from a virus is going to risk dying instantly from a nuclear attack which we know is inevitable from other countries? Is Putin going to hide from a nuclear attack in a bunker? No! Radiation is in the air and would kill off everything around him, including possibly him. Is he going to populate the world again should he survive? There are more questions than answers that a madman such as Putin could come up with in his “propaganda” but the reality is that he may be afraid of dying due to a virus or most certainly due to a definite nuclear war should he push the button with the code.

It could be a washed up theory of course but it’s as real a possibility as WWIII happening, isn’t it?

From my little corner of life…given Putin’s fear of Covid…there won’t be a WWIII with nuclear attacks. Stop losing sleep over it and poor people of Ukraine and even Russia given the propaganda that they have or may be fed.

Stay well.

Love and Light!

It’s Not You…

It’s Not You, It’s Me! Believe them! It’s NOT About You

It’s me, not you.

That’s a phrase that comes along with dating but does it or does it pertain to other things as well?

The answer to that is a resounding, YES! It does belong to other things as well in Life.

While it may be you, it’s more likely to be that of someone else’s issue than it is of your making even though they (whomever it is) would like to absolve themselves from everything and put it all square on your shoulders as blame. In other words, they will get some sort of “pay off” by doing so even if only for a moment in time.

What do I mean?

Let’s take Marla and Poindexter as examples for debate’s sake only.

They are 2 people who have enough personal faults/flaws to sink a battleship between them and yet, they would love others to believe that it’s them and their faults for M & P being ostracized other than for chocolates sake which they give away freely because they have too much of it.

They have sent off a plethora of emails to other people with either excuses why they can’t do something or down right blaming others. As a matter of fact, no one has heard them speak of anyone that they know in nice terms. Why believe that anyone is escaping their wrath then?

The reason that they put others down is because they, themselves are not comfortable with themselves or should it be said, by themselves to not put people down. It makes them feel good about themselves or should I say, better?

Let’s not confuse things more than they already are, ok?

M & P are not comfortable with who they are or what they do or have done and they will assume that they know what others are thinking or feeling. In other words, they aren’t feeling worthy of other’s relationships and therefore, they will use whatever they can to JUSTIFY their actions, words or even chocolate as “there…I’ve done something” type of thing to themselves.

The reason that this is seeable is because it’s not just one person that they are doing this to but everyone and it’s easy to see that fact.

Is it really them or you then?

Well, in many, many cases, it’s about the person who does the yelling, hollering or the biggest show who is either “JUSTIFYING” their actions or lack of them or to cover up their true feelings about someone or perhaps, several or many others.

If you are the “victim” of someone who has done this to you then, even if in the form of “dating” or otherwise, it’s likely that it truly is about them versus being about you.

Either their imaginations have run off with them or they are hiding something about themselves or they want a “tiff” to set things off so that they don’t have to see you again? No matter what, it’s usually about them, not you. There are plenty of people who are or are not part of their lives that they are doing this type of thing with and you, even if you are spoken nicely to, are not above their slings and punches. If you think that you are, ask someone else or several people about you and what they’ve had to say about you. I’m sure that you’re in for a shock if you think that they couldn’t or wouldn’t possibly do the same to you as they are doing to others.

The truth is that people will “blow off steam” with those that they want away from. Does that make it right? NO! The answer to this question is a resounding “no” because it alleviates them or whomever from all blame/guilt and “justifies” them being cruel while elevating themselves in their own minds.

If for instance you are on the receiving end of a “blow up” with someone else, don’t believe that it’s about you per say. Of course, if you haven’t been abusive openly to someone, you have nothing to reproach yourself for or apologize do you? No one is “perfect” so, even if you can’t see something that you’ve done, be aware that it’s not as bad as they would want you to believe.

Remember, that it’s NEVER or RARELY about the reasons that you are given by this person/people but rather about their own “imperfections”. Yes, I did say “imperfections” because they are far from being “perfect” themselves, aren’t they? Are they “perfect”? Have they been “perfect” to you or have you heard either this person/people put down others as well?

If you were to look closer at the situation, as confounded as you may be right now or as you can’t see anything so wrong that you’ve done to them/this person, the answer may be that you are not alone in what they’re doing/have done to you.

It’s a reason/excuse that they have created in order to get away from the situation but, even they may not know why they’ve done so. If there are more than one person that they are doing this to, it’s never the reason that they’ve given to you or the last argument that they’ve had with you. It’s more about them and you are likely not to blame for their actions, words, or lack of them.

From my little corner of life to yours, it is about THEM and NOT you. It’s all about them. Trust in that and if it’s only you or you cannot see reason within their argument…either it’s about them or it’s about them justifying their lifestyle or lack of it that is to blame.

In other words, it IS about them, not you!

Be well.

Love and Light!