Spiritual Awakening/Enlightenment Doesn’t Mean Loving Everything Or Everyone

Contrary to what the mass of society tends to believe nowadays, the term “Spiritual Enlightenment/Spiritually Awakened” does not mean loving everyone and everything, never feeling negativity or dislike towards someone or something.  It also does not mean that one has to speak with kindness always either nor, does it mean that when someone lashes out at something or someone, that they aren’t spiritually enlightened or awakened.  On the same hand, plastering a smile upon one’s face constantly, getting into a Zen Pose, speaking calmly and perhaps, even in New Age Terms, also does not mean that someone is Spiritually Enlightened or Awakened.

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One is not religious necessarily because they go to church every week and donate money to the collection plates being passed around.  The physical body being in a building, deemed as a church, synagogue, mosque or whatever religious building it’s been deemed each week and taking out of one’s wallet, does not a religious person make.  Equally, a clergy person, standing at the front of a religious building, dressing the part and proclaiming to be a member of the clergy, also does not necessarily point to a religious person even though religious words are coming out of their mouths. Being a clergy member or a religious person also does not mean having to love everyone and everything, or always spewing out positivity towards everything and everyone.

One need only look as far as the Evangelists who have been caught, taking money under fraudulent guises in the name of “God” before one can find an example to cite.  Though their words spoke the right language and their images were those of Holy men and women, their actions spoke loudly that they were charlatans.  Week after week, they’d produce or pour out television or radio programming and pack churches to the rafters with worshippers who believed in their Biblical teachings and their words that promised healing in one way or another.  Millions watched their television sets each week and some, every day.  Yet, their intentions were no more “God” based or religious than the grifter on the street, taking money from people to play the cup and ball game.  The right words and smile can carry desperate people a long way towards belief.

A few questions needs to be asked.

Would a Spiritually Enlightened/Awakened person allow someone that they see as a charlatan or false “profit” continue on, put a smile on their face, without saying anything against that person, putting no effort into attempting to warn others?  Or, would they speak their feelings?

Sadly, Society in general is becoming lost to the quacks of the world who are out to take, take and take some more for their own profit.  Although, they appear to be doing “good deeds”, giving something for free, appear to be being kind-hearted and helping others, if looked at closely, one can see that the only good these people are doing is for themselves and their own wallets.  The Evangelists who have been caught are one such group.  They are no more trying to help others than they are trying to pad their wallets.  They simply found and used the “hook-in lingo”, the desperate and gullible audience needed and they learned how to use it all together well….some to the tune of millions of dollars bilked from people who were gullible enough to fall for it all.  Thankfully, there were others who called them out on it and some of these Evangelists have done or are, doing jail time for it. There are many others out there who are doing the same thing in different media and different ways.  It’s still the same horse, different breed and the internet is so filled with them that people need to open their own minds and think for themselves first.  The net is easy pickings when someone or many will fall for the bait.

In this case, who was more “spiritually enlightened/awakened”?  The person bilking the money out of people’s wallets or, the ones exposing them?  Think about that for a moment.  I’m sure the answer is clear.

If someone claims that they are something or someone that they’re not but, does so in a pleasing fashion, does that make them who they pretend to be or, does it make those who believe it all, having been taken for a ride?

At first glance at this statement, it would appear that it’s the fault of the con-man.  He did a number on people who were likely wanting to believe that person.  However, on second thought, were those people to have been more awakened and enlightened, they likely couldn’t and wouldn’t have been duped in the first place.

So, whose fault is it really?

Likely, the answer is both to some level or another.  While that might sound cynical and harsh to have said, the truth is, those who fall for a con-man’s game, are usually not thinking clearly enough to have asked themselves questions that would make them second-guess their trust in this person.  Desperate people, do desperate things and want to believe someone who seemingly has all of the answers they are seeking.  Were they to be less in need, they likely would have listened to that little voice inside their guts, telling them that something was amiss in all of this.  Unfortunately, people when desperate, aren’t likely letting this little voice come through as it should and they fall prey as victims to such people.  There’s plenty of these frauds out in this world, out to make it by stepping on other people especially, desperate people’s backs.

“But, I’m getting it all for FREE!  I’m not paying a cent and it’s helping me,” some will claim.

It’s prudent to ask yourself if you really are getting it for free.  This is especially true of people who are trying to sell you something on the internet.  You may not ever take a penny out of your pockets to give that person however, that doesn’t mean that the person isn’t making a decent buck off of each time you click onto one of their “free” offerings.  More to the point, you are paying something to this person from within yourself.  Think about that for a moment, please.

Of course, it goes without much fan-fare or saying that it’s the con-man’s fault for bilking others out of something to get what they want. That’s a given even if that person truly thinks “what’s the harm?  I’m getting what I need and people are getting what they want.”  The fact is, they are  not who they claim to be and they are not giving you what you think you are getting.  No one wins in this scenario though you may not be able to see it.  Worse, no one is spiritually awakened/enlightened by someone who is simply playing a part and making money off of it while others are being drawn into their schtick.

Who can spot these charlatans better than the desperate or those in need of spiritual help?  

Generally, someone who is spiritually devoid or seeking spiritual guidance, is better prey for these types of people than those who are more spiritually awakened.  The reason is fairly simple.  Those who are spiritually awakened or enlightened, will be less likely to be desperate enough to fall for the games of people like this.  They will often see right through the charade that is being put on.  Their gut feelings as they are often called, are more finely tuned and they will pick up the nuances that the desperate or those in search of and in need of, awakening and help will be.  The awakened/enlightened will more quickly pick up on the crap being spewed out with a gut feeling that something is not right about what is happening.  They will question it and seek out truths first.  Even if they themselves, fall for the con-man’s actions, they will rather more than quickly figure  out that there’s something fishy about the entire thing.  If enlightened enough, they will call it out and not simply walk away.

Sadly, those who do call these quacks out on their crap, are often the ones who will take the brunt of criticism from those who are seeking out something from these charlatans as they don’t want their hope to be knocked down.  They have put these self-promoters on a pedestal for saying the right things and seemingly resonating with something within them.  They don’t want to see their hopes shattered.  It’s akin to someone telling them that what they perceive as a life boat, is nothing but a water logged tree limb that will sink the moment that they see it for what it is and look for some other way to keep afloat.  They don’t want to hear it and they will call the person down who has tried to warn them.  It’s part of desperation in human nature but, that’s what the con-men are banking on and using to fulfill their own needs.

Should a Spiritually Awakened/Enlightened person speak only well of someone or something that they can see is taking from others? 

When someone speaks out in a not so loving way about someone that they see is taking advantage in one way or another of others for their own purposes, is it best that a Spiritually Awake/Enlightened person smile and only speak well of the thief or, should they speak out about what they are seeing and feeling?  Would you rather that person go on taking from others and perhaps, you if you let them?

As stated earlier, being spiritually aware, awake and enlightened doesn’t mean acting as though Sainthood has bestowed a vow of love and silence upon them.  As a matter of fact, a spiritually aware, awake and enlightened person is likely more sensitive to the guises that are coming from these types of acts, ranging from unkind and self-serving and leading up to criminal intent and will pick up on it sooner rather than later.  They will likely not be selfish enough to keep silent when they see what has been happening. Something inside of them will nag until they finally feel the need to speak out about it in the hopes of saving others from what they perceive to be happening.  Sadly, they will likely also have to take the brunt of criticism for having done so and perhaps, called names along with accusations that are not fitting their intentions in the first place.

Many of these charlatans will use what they know best about people to get what they want while the true spiritually evolved will recognize their methods and call them out on it.  Is that right or wrong to have done? 

Would a witness to a crime be a hero if they shut their mouths about what they saw happening or would they be a hero for coming forward and helping others capture the criminal?  The rest of this question speaks for itself and is one that everyone needs to ask themselves first and foremost.  Just because they don’t see a crime happening, doesn’t mean one isn’t taking place, does it?  In the same manner, people falling victim to someone who has their own best interests at heart but can’t see it, will call those who do see it, down.  Sad but true.

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Even Jesus upturned tables in fits of anger at those who would take from others in an unfair manner.  Would one call Jesus “unenlightened, unawakened and spiritually bereft”?

I will leave this piece here.

Be well.  Love, Light and Blessings.

 

First Post Now On New Blog: The Alternative Viewpoint

I’ve just published my first piece on my newest blog, “The Alternative Viewpoint“.

A satirical and comical viewpoint on writing about Donald Trump.  There’s loads of links to humorous videos and articles.

Go have some fun and enjoy.

I’ll get more serious later so, bookmark it and come back to it.

When Your Adult Child Becomes Abusive

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If your adult child or children were anyone else on this planet, would you allow them the leeway that you are giving to your abusive child or children?

Tough question to answer, isn’t it?  Part of that is because we have that “bond” with our child or children as a parent that supersedes any other relationship that we can have or have had in our lives.  Love is blind as they say so, we often blindfold ourselves to the three dimensional view of our child or children.  We can see glimpses of their flaws and faults but, that’s as much as our guilt will allow us to see.  It’s nearly impossible for us to be as fully objective about our own child or children as we may be able to be with other people.

The word “guilt” was used for good reason. As parents, not only does the love we have for them become overwhelming and blinding but, we tend to tie our own self-worth into our child or children.  The moment we dive deeply into being critical of our own flesh and blood that we brought into this world or even adopted from someone else’s womb, we tie ourselves to that child or children in a way that we cannot tie ourselves to anyone else on this planet.  A put-down of our child even from our own minds and whether we gave birth to them or not, is oftentimes, felt as a put-down upon ourselves as both parents as well as who we are in general as people.  If our child or children are not doing well in life or is somehow “flawed”, we can unconsciously or even consciously, figure that it’s our faults.  We can leap to the conclusion that somehow, we have failed as parents and therefore we are also flawed as people in one way or another.

Not everyone will completely blame themselves for their child’s failures in Life.  Some parents will be able to see that our children have made choices in friends or groups that they’ve chosen to hang around and blame them instead of ourselves.  However, somewhere, deep down inside of us, there’s still a feeling of somehow being imperfect as a parent because our child or children have made those choices whether we’ve discouraged it or outright forbidden it or not. On some level or another, we feel “guilt” in one capacity or another and can tear ourselves to shreds as both parents as well as people.

This then leads us back to the question of whether or not we would allow any other human being to treat us the way that we allow our adult children to treat us.

First of all, were someone else to be treating us with any level ranging from disrespect to outright abuse, we’d likely toss those people from our lives to some extent or another, for some time frame or another or, more likely, until there was at least a sincere apology from that person.  If it was a long-termed thing, we’d likely walk away and not look back.   With family, it’s not quite that easy.  We can even find ourselves being victims as adults to poor treatment from our own parents and siblings out of a feeling of obligation and duty.  However, having said that, we can also come to a point where we begin to distance ourselves either somewhat or totally from them and their abusive or manipulative ways.  Friends or others in our lives are even more likely to be walked away from under these circumstances.  Our children are not quite as easy to distance ourselves from because of the above and for other reasons.

There is likely few people that we put more of ourselves into than we do with our child or children.  Even as adults, we are still invested in many ways in our children’s lives and well-being.  After all, isn’t that our job?  At least, that’s what we may reason with ourselves but, the answer to that is a resounding “no” once our children become adults and, we don’t need to continue to allow them to use, abuse or treat us poorly once they have become adults.  Our “jobs” are done.  We gave birth to them, loved them, raised them, gave them what we could reasonably give them and we supported them in more than a roof over their heads.  There are exceptions of course in the parenting world to this but, we’re talking about the average parent here, not those who were abusive to their own children or neglectful in any way.

There are a few things to take into consideration in how parents can deal with their adult-abusive or even estranged child (a topic that not many sites will deal with).

Your influence over your adult child was watered down many years ago.

We all like to think that we still have some sort of power or control over our children’s lives once they are adults.  For some, this is true but, for the most part, our influences over our child, all of our teachings, morals and values that we feel we’ve instilled into them, was long ago watered down by the influences of many other people in our children’s lives as they grow.  We are no longer their sole source of influence.  Peers, bosses, teachers and society in general, also including technology as well as entertainment venues, have taken over the largest portion of what affects them or doesn’t affect them once they are adults and have been doing so for many years before this point.  Oftentimes, those sources are the biggest reasons for their actions, decisions or choices at this stage of their lives versus us, as parents.  We therefore, cannot continue to place blame upon ourselves for everything that our children decide to do or not do.  Those choices were influenced by many other sources and we are the least likely sources at this point in our children’s choices or lack of them so, we can halt the self-deprecating right there for their poor choices or in taking the blame for the way they treat us now.

Having given your child too much attention or in short, spoiling them.

A lot of parents from the 1980’s onwards are likely guilty of having given their child everything they could possibly give them including monetary things as well as attention, devotion, praise and love.  Parents of children from the 80’s onwards were also victims to a new way of thinking about parenting. Society was at a point where the theory was to reward children for almost everything that they did, including potty training.  They got stars, praise and even rewards or trophies for simply participating no matter how well they did or whether they did anything or not.  They simply had to show up more than half of the time in order to get a reward of some type or another.  Even education was play based and grades were given out according to effort, not necessarily, achievement.

This was a time frame in which parents were also encouraged to praise our children to the hilt for even small endeavours in the home and, it was done by most.  Support, praise, rewards and more of the same.  No matter what children did or didn’t do in those times, they were rewarded for one thing or another.  Not only did that lead us to believe that our children could do no wrong but, it led them to feeling “entitled” to getting rewarded in one way or another no matter what they did or didn’t do.  It was that entitlement that turned a fairly good chunk of those children into little narcissists who believed that the sun rose and set on them no matter what they did or didn’t do.  That wasn’t just parental influence but, also that of society in general.  Even were children to be disciplined at home, they were rewarded for even poor attitudes and skills outside of the home. Parents couldn’t override an entire system and if they tried, the parents became “The Hated Ones” because the rest of society and its systems were telling these children that they were “entitled”.   We did them no favours as human beings because it made it tougher for these kids to grow up into a tough, dog-eat-dog world where they weren’t able to cope well because everything had been handed to them up until this point.  That wasn’t necessarily parent’s faults but rather societal experimentation that failed these children and turned them into narcissistic tending little monsters who eventually, would grow up into adults who felt entitled and angry when they didn’t get what they wanted anymore from Life or their parents.

The “experts” are still saying that parents should tell their children they are loved no matter how badly they’ve treated us or, even if they have walked away on us and are now estranged from us.

Not to put down the so-called “experts” but, how many parents have tried with their children, always telling them that they are loved, only to find themselves being either doormats or punching bags for their children?

Answer:  Lots!

Sadly, many parents of children from the ’80s onwards are now finding their either fully adult or nearly adult children, treating them like yesterday’s garbage and being tossed to the side while they’re still telling their child, “I love you” and continuing to do so no matter how badly they are treated by their children.

Far be it from me to tell parents to not tell their children that they are loved and wanted.  Every parent needs to let their children know that much but, when that child not only disrespects that parent but, treats them poorly, it’s time to give up on the loving words and time to get real with their adult children by letting them know that while they are still loved, their attitudes and abusive, using actions will not be tolerated.  Enough already with sending them messages of “I love you” and leaving it there while rolling with the punches.  These are no longer 10 year old children who can’t understand the meanings of their actions fully.  These are fully grown adults who must learn that for every action, there’s an equal or greater reaction.  That doesn’t mean withdrawing love for them however, it does mean that these adults don’t get to treat their parents poorly and still get the benefits that they would if they were treating their parents with respect and love too.  Poor actions get poor reactions.  Withdrawal of love for them is never a solution but, rewarding them by permitting poor treatment is not the answer.  They need a wake-up call for their sakes as well as the parent’s own well-being.

If you wouldn’t let others treat you this way and would walk away from them, why are you letting your child do this to you?  

As has been said throughout this piece in differing ways, rewarding poor behaviour is akin to a form of abuse from parents.  We are not doing them any good by rewarding our children for their poor treatment of us or by putting up with it and giving them more and more of ourselves.  Life doesn’t work that way so, why should we?

When a child is rewarded for poor behaviour, attitudes, actions, choices or decisions, it re-inforces that behaviour within them.  No, they won’t like being said “no” to nor, will they love the idea that they’re not getting their own way or what they want if we do start to stand up to them as adults and let them know that it’s not ok to treat us in a poor manner.  However, continuing to give them what they want, expect or feel entitled to getting, is only bolstering the idea that poor behaviour, temper tantrums, threats of withdrawal from our lives and whatever else they can throw at us to manipulate us into giving them what they want is simply training them to continue treating us as parents, wrongly, poorly and with disregard as well as disrespect.

Let me say something perfectly clear here.

Giving more of yourself and handing everything to someone who is treating us badly, let alone our children, is a recipe for becoming a “doormat” for others.  In short, we are laying ourselves down on the ground and letting people walk on and wipe their feet on us.  That’s not right.  We are people too and it doesn’t matter who they are to us.  

Sadly, sometimes, we have to let them go and hope that they will eventually come back otherwise, we risk our lives becoming infected with toxicity.  

There’s no bigger health threat than having someone we love, treat us like dirt beneath their feet and making us feel like we don’t matter in this life.  That goes for our adult children.  We all need to feel wanted, loved, respected and treated fairly and well.  We deserve that from others especially, the very children that we lovingly raised to the adult level and oftentimes, sacrificed more than a good night’s sleep for.  Many parents can tell stories of having given up great careers, being able to travel or do things that they, themselves wanted to do for themselves that would have made them happy, in order to give everything to their child or children, leaving themselves unhappy, unfulfilled and only to be treated in an abusive, uncaring manner or worse, have that child or children walk out of their lives, without contact, care or concern for their parent(s) and their well-being.

More to the point, those children have become what one can consider a “toxin” to the parent, making them feel as though they’ve wasted those years of their lives on someone who cannot or more to the point, return that love, care or respect to their parents.  Not only that but, it wears on the parent’s psychological well-being and soon after, their physical health.  It’s a vicious cycle especially, when the parent continues to feel as though they simply need to do more, try harder, give more or plead with that child to keep their love or the adult child in their lives.  It’s akin to a dog or cat, chasing their own tails.  It’s a fruitless exercise in not only futility but in a form of an illness of one sort or another.  It won’t change your child and sometimes, the only way to make one person’s lives healthier, is for the parent to either distance themselves, limit their time or exposure to that child’s ill behaviour and treatment or, to completely walk away if the child doesn’t do it for themselves.

Yes, that all sounds counter-intuitive to what we feel or have been taught to think of as “proper parenting” but, this all leads back to the original question….

If this were anyone else in your life, would you continue to let that person abuse or mistreat you?

If your answer is “yes” then you, yourself need to find some counselling because you’re not valuing yourself as a person and instead, are valuing others above yourself.

If you answered “no” to this question then, why are you allowing and encouraging your adult child to continue to do it to you?

From my little corner of life, while this is a longer piece than I usually write, it’s an under said topic that needs addressing more and more fully.  We’ve turned out a couple of generations of children now, both adult and children who need to learn that you aren’t rewarded for treating others poorly.  There are consequences to their behaviours and reactions to their actions of equal or greater proportion.

Be well and let me know what you are dealing with in the comments, please.

Best wishes from one parent to another or to adult children who might be reading this and recognizing what may be happening in their own relationships with their parents.

Comment!

 

 

 

Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) Viewers Are Getting What I’ve Been Saying All Along

Nothing has brought in more readers to this site than Ralph Smart.  I have to thank him for that readership.

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At first, I had to endure many nasty, judgemental, accusatory and raunchy comments.  I had so many of them from Ralph Smart Lovers that I’ve stopped reading them or responding to them a few weeks ago now.  It wasn’t until more recently that I’ve seen the sheer numbers of comments on these pieces climbing that curiosity got the better of me and I started to read them before simply trashing them all.  Much to my surprise, many of the current commenters have made it clear that they have been doing their own research as well now because they had noticed something that just wasn’t sitting right with them about Smart and his many, many videos, the repetitious nature of them as well as what appears to them to be “hogwash”, “watered down”, “hocus-pocus” and so many more terms that I can’t even begin to list them.  Suffice it to say that a lot more people are finally becoming suspicious, thinking for themselves now and doing some research.  Many of them are now writing to thank me for doing the research into him, my viewpoint as well as the thought I’ve put into it all.  That’s gratifying especially, with all of the negative, raunchy and un-publishable comments that I’ve had to trash and endure.

For those who think that they know me or anything about me because they stumbled upon my blog through a Google or other search engine search, let me say one thing, “YOU DON’T”.  End of story.

Whether 19 or 95 years of age, people have been slowly figuring out what I had long ago figured out and are asking questions of both Smart and themselves.  Most of them are thanking me for “opening their eyes” or, “validating what they were already feeling” about him.

From my little corner of life, I’m finally finding that my time wasn’t wasted for many who are self-thinking and not following blindly or without questioning for themselves.

Please Note:  I no longer will be publishing or responding to comments regarding Ralph Smart.  Please feel free to read and comment on several hundred other pieces I’ve written and posted over the past 5 years that I’ve been writing on this blog.  Thank you and best wishes.   

 

Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) Commenters Save Your Breath

Don’t make me do it.  Don’t make me delete my pieces on Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep from Youtube) or worse yet, write an even more blazing set of pieces than I already have written.  Oh GASP!  I can hear the shouts, cries, inflamed souls as well as the  trashy explicatives people would call me for having done it.  They are already echoing in my ears and brain.

I went to the lengths of putting a note on all of my blog pieces about Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) that I would no longer be reading, publishing or responding to any further comments about those pieces while asking readers to read something else on my blog from the several hundred pieces that I’ve written on differing topics.  Yet, Ralph Smarters or “The Cultists” as I have come to call and know them can’t seem to help themselves.  They have some sort of nagging need to defend this man with oftentimes, vulgar or insulting messages that I wouldn’t lower myself to respond to, let alone, publish for the rest of my readers. That’s telling me that there’s desperation within a good majority of those commenters who are sadly, Ralph Smart followers, living, breathing and taking in his every word.

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I re-paid a visit to Ralph’s channel on Youtube (no links need to be given here as the chap does a good enough job of self-promotion already.)  What I found were his “worshippers”.  Nearly 100% of them who commented on his videos were young, inexperienced, gullible and seemingly, brainwashed by Smart’s constant barrage of videos that he puts out in a week.  It was then that I realized that those who were commenting on my pieces, are in fact, (in their minds) defending their idol.  Smart has turned himself into both an idol for these younger people as well as a cult-leader.

“Seven Day Vegan Challenge.  Can I get a HELLLO?  PEEEACE.  And we ain’t even had breakfast yet.  Slow motion to this side.”

People have accused me of being bitter, salty, hate-filled, jealous, in love with him and a plethora of other idiotic labels because my pieces were not glorifying Smart.  In spite of me having said in many of them that I had once been binge-watching Smart’s videos until I figured out what he was doing to everyone, people still kept pounding at me and continue to do so.  I have written many more pieces since then but, those coming in, do so because they’ve done a search for Smart or info on him and found my blog.  They only read what they see in those pieces that turn up in their search but, nothing else I’ve written in my several hundred pieces over the past 5 years and somehow, ignorantly assume that they know everything about me.  That’s where the nasty, raunchy comments come into play that I trash because they’re not fit for the human eye let alone my readers.

More than anything, I have to wonder what it is that they are really taking away from Smart’s messages.  It seems that their anger, bitterness, hatred and even self-esteem is still rock bottom to write comments as they do.  More to the point, they don’t seem to have gotten any of Smart’s messages.  If they did, they wouldn’t be writing the types of comments that they’ve written.  Then, it hit me squarely in the face.  The answer was right there all along.

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Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) has given out few, if any, good, loving or helpful messages.

One need only to have seen the sheer numbers of people who have written to Smart and received no answer from him.  The begging, the pleading, the bargaining from these commenters both here and on his videos are pathetically showing the desperation that these followers have within themselves.  These are not necessarily whole, healthy, self-esteemed people.  These are broken or lost youngsters in search of either an idol, someone to tell them how to live their lives or even (in some cases) a parental figure.  However, Smart will charge you an arm and a leg for his time and the ability to talk to him.  Try to the tune of 350 British Pounds for an hour’s worth of time with him that is undefined as to what that session or time with him contains.

Laughable was the fact that the majority of Smart’s followers, are too young to have that kind of money.  He’s aimed his audience at a target group who will only ever follow his free Youtube videos and beg for him to contact them.  It’s sad to see people leaving their email addresses in public, pleading with him to write to them when he barely re-visits their comments.  He’s already moved onto his next video that he releases daily but, they don’t and won’t see that in him.  After all, he’s a role model, an idol, a “Guru” and akin to a cult leader to them.  He’s got the viewers alright but, he’s got the viewers who will likely never purchase a thing from him and that is what he wants…purchases.  He wants his bills paid by them because he doesn’t want to work a 9 to 5 job and has admitted that in many of his videos.  In effect, he wants troubled young people to pay his bills.

Good idea but, wrong crowd, Ralph.

More comical are the words that he utters in most of his videos.

“I’ve been helping millions of people for many, many years now,” he says, never wiping the smile from his face while I can’t stop the laughter coming from mine.

At this writing, Smart is still 30 years old.  He started Infinite Waters Diving Deep as a Youtube channel about 3 or 4 years ago.  So, how many years has he been “helping millions” as he phrases it as though delusional?  The math can speak for itself.

Still un-proven as no one who complains has yet to be able to give me a credible source that actually states that Smart is a real, certified psychologist as he claims.  While we know that he obtained a combined degree in Psychology and Criminology, that B.A. doesn’t make him either a Criminologist nor a Psychologist.  Being a psychologist requires either a PhD or a Master’s degree and at least 3 years doing clinical work as well as writing a board exam to get his license.  To the best of my research, Smart did none of this.

As a matter of fact, the closest that I’ve been able to find of Smart having done anything “clinical” comes in the form of him, having been placed in (yes, I am not joking or exaggerating this point as he admits it on a video of his during his early days linked HERE where he appears almost “manic”) a Psychiatric Ward, himself and given meds.  Don’t believe me?  Watch for yourself.  The link is there, above.  However, it did lead me to question whether above and beyond Smart’s split B.A. in psychology, if he had considered that hospital stay his accreditation in being a “psychologist”.  While I haven’t been in a psychiatric ward of any type even as a visitor for someone else, I have studied psychology myself and, as stated in another piece, I do not consider myself a psychologist because I have accreditation in some psychology education yet, apparently he does.  Again, if anyone has a credible source as to Smart’s accreditation as a psychologist, please let me know and I will reconsider at least that portion of his claims.

Several people have asked me what is wrong with him making money off of his time?  There’s nothing wrong with him doing that however, having said that, he charges an arm and a leg for it.  If you doubt me, as I’ve said in a previous piece, try this converter and see what 350 British Pounds amounts to in your part of the world with THIS CONVERTER.  In my part of the world, with today’s exchange rate, that’s over $576 for one hour.  Even a real psychologist doesn’t get paid that much and how he can expect younger people who make up the bulk of his viewers can afford that is beyond me.

Many have said, “I don’t buy anything off of him.  His Youtube videos are free.  I watch them and get so much out of them.  He makes no money off of them or me.”

I have news for those who think that Smart isn’t making money off of his videos.  Even if you aren’t buying his ridiculously priced, undefined sessions that are without description or merit, his books or his cd’s, Smart makes money off of every click that he gets onto one of his videos from Youtube.  Why do you think that he’d spend the time to put out so many of them?  Do you really believe that he’s doing it out of the goodness of his heart?  How does he pay his bills?  Have you asked yourself those questions?  I’ll bet not.  Yet, you’ll spend the time to write comments on both his videos, begging him to write to you, talk to you or praising him or, you’ll write to me to blast me for what I’ve written about him.  Are you thinking for yourself as you do that?  Can you not see what he’s doing to you and others?  Give him an “A” for marketing.

Finally, if you are reading this, please note that it’s a waste of your time to write to me with raunchy defensive or defending style comments as I will NOT be reading, publishing or responding to them as I’ve posted on the bottoms of the rest of my blog pieces.

From my little corner of life, I’m too busy writing other pieces about other topics and Ralph Smart is of little consequence to me.  What does become my business are the comments that I have to trash every day that a search engine sends to this blog by people who are searching for something on him.  Just what they are searching for is only a guess but, I’d hazard one to say that people are searching for further information on him because they either love him or they are skeptical as I was.  Either way, good luck.  He’s been careful to erase his steps so that you’ll have difficulty finding them on the net.  And, by the way, as far as I have been told by a source, he lives with his sister and mother still. There’s your idol.

And, by the way, I make NO money from this blog nor, do I want to.

I do not hate Ralph Smart nor, do I want to be like him.  I am not jealous nor, in love with him. (I’m old enough to be his mother.  My daughter is older than he is.)  Most of all, I am  far from stupid, a fool, un-enlightened or anything else you can throw in my direction so, hang onto those insults for your enemies in the play-grounds or troll some other place like Twitter.  Trump does it.

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Blessings, Love & Light.