Debbie Reynolds Dies One Day After The Death of Her Daughter, Carrie Fisher…


There’s no need to go through the list of credits for either the late actress/comedienne Carrie Fisher nor, for her mother, actress, Debbie Reynolds.  Their list of accomplishments within the entertainment world has and will be documented by many other sources.  What I wish to express is my deepest condolences to their family.

It was tragic to hear that Carrie Fisher had passed away at the age of 60 but, to hear that her mother, Debbie Reynolds, suffered a stroke while making funeral arrangements for her daughter and passed away only hours later and one day after her daughter’s passing, was both ironic as well as horribly sad news in such a rough year where many stars that we came to love and know, have also passed on both young and old.  There will be some hefty In Memoriams done during award ceremonies in early 2017 which may take up a good chunk of these shows.

While I was not truly a Carrie Fisher fan as much as I was a Debbie Reynold’s fan, I felt both of their losses and took them hard.  That’s not to say that I thought any less of the others in the entertainment business who have passed this year but, more because this appeared to be a mother-daughter bond that even death couldn’t break.

In spite of many tortured years between Fisher and Reynolds (Fisher taking blame for that estrangement by saying that she didn’t want to be Debbie Reynold’s daughter due to her famous mother’s stardom) they had found a way to patch up their differences and were finally able to be together, loving one another.

Sadly, Fisher had drug addictions over the years as well as mental health issues that were also part and party to her issues with her mom. Fisher had smoked weed from the age of 13 then, went on to Cocaine, LSD and possibly other drugs. It’s unclear as to how much she did at this time.  Years and even decades of their lives were ruined and wasted because of these issues.  Fisher, herself, admitted it openly in books she had written, stand-up comedy routines as well as interviews, including one done with Oprah Winfrey.

Reynolds had long ago openly stated that it was heart breaking to watch her daughter in such distress and not wanting her as part of Fisher’s life.  As graciously as she could, Reynolds stated that Fisher had pushed her away and there had been nothing she could do except to hurt.  It was sad for both of them as so much time in Life was wasted that could have been spent together.  The depths of mental health issues and drug addictions cannot be measured except in despair for all parties involved it seems.

What was certain was that Reynolds had been with son, Todd Fisher the morning of December 28, 2016, one day after her only daughter’s passing, distraught, overwhelmed and grieving to make funeral arrangements for Fisher when she was stricken with a stroke.  It was allegedly not the first one this year or last that Reynolds had experienced but, it was the one that would end her life only hours later.

Reynolds had stated to Todd that she just wanted to be with Carrie.  And, so it was.  Her passing only hours after her daughter, Carrie’s death, led her to what we all hope was a reunion of the mother-daughter duo.  Perhaps, there was a bond between mother and child that couldn’t be broken?  Whatever it was, son, Todd Fisher stated “she’s with Carrie”.

As family will now have to plan a double funeral for the pair now, it’s uncertain as to how it will take place or when but, suffice it to say that one can only hope that they are together and at peace, loving one another without condition right now.

From my little corner of life, as sad as it all is, I can see reason, justice, hope and a bond that couldn’t be broken by even death itself.  Prayers go out to their family left behind as they grieve both losses at once.  May they take comfort in the idea that perhaps, just perhaps, they are truly together right now.


Infinite Waters Diving Deep Viewers Show That They Aren’t Getting His Messages


I have been writing this blog for nearly 5 years.  I’ve written pieces on many topics which include everything from personal thoughts to public news stories.  Yet, nothing that I’ve written has garnered the type of attention nor, drawn the amount of readers and comments that my pieces on Ralph Smart or Infinite Waters Diving Deep has brought forth and done so with such venom.

Many who have proclaimed to be Smart followers, have boasted about the fact that they have “learned a lot” from Smart and have been made whole by his “free videos”.  However, all that has come across in their comments, seem to be the feelings of those who have learned extremely little about what it is that Smart has been saying.  The comments have been anything but “Spiritual” and have been attacking towards my slant/point of view on him.  What is that truly saying then about Smart/Infinite Waters Diving Deep and his teachings?  Obviously, it’s not getting through to those who are loyal viewers and come here to comment or, shall I say, “defend him”?

Look, nothing I say in my blog can stop you from watching Ralph’s videos, can it?  If you are devout fan of his, what I say from my own experiences and thoughts about him, has absolutely no bearing on what you do or don’t do with Smart’s Youtube’s pieces nor, whether you choose to spend your money on having one very expensive session with him does it?  My questions to those who would write to slam what I am writing are, why does what I’ve written bother you so deeply and secondly, are you really getting what it is that Smart is saying because most of those who comment, have deep issues about anyone who writes anything that isn’t praising Smart.

Before you go off on a rant towards what I’ve written about Smart, take the time to read other entries that I’ve also written.  If your only reason for being here is because my entry came up in a search for Smart/Infinite Waters Diving Deep, do yourself a favour and read what else I’ve written about other things before going off-side and writing me hate mail. I don’t do well with those who spew out hatred and it goes in the trash if I find it offensive towards others.  The rest, I publish and will respond to, if I feel that it has enough merit to give a response.

Perhaps, a bigger question would be, why does what I think of Smart, bother you so much?

I don’t have to love Smart for you to enjoy him.  I simply happen to find him quite cliche, nothing he’s saying is new, everything is re-cycled and a marketing ploy of some sort.  There’s nothing that Smart is saying that hasn’t been said before by many.  Yes, he’s a seemingly friendly chap who smiles and makes you feel good with his laid-back attitude but, he is far from being a god or perhaps, even a real psychologist.  More than half of what Smart has said on Youtube, can be found in many other books by many other authors.  He simply says it on camera with a smile, Weeping Willow branches, grazing his head the entire time.  I don’t have to love Smart.

From my little corner of life, what I’m seeing from these commenters is that they aren’t “getting” Smart’s messages and certainly are less than “spiritual” in their own messages.  In other words, they aren’t taking away as much as they think that they are from Ralph’s videos because it’s showing through in their comments.

Love, Light, Blessings and Strawberries.



Are Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) Followers Really Getting What He’s Preaching?

I recently wrote three pieces on a Youtube sensation, Mr. Ralph Smart after having watched dozens and dozens of his videos and having been absorbed by his videos myself. At some point, something struck me about his videos that wasn’t sitting correctly anymore.  I was beginning to see pieces re-done, re-worded, turned and twisted in his quest to get out more videos, faster.  As a matter of fact, I began to realize that several of his pieces were almost word for word and re-taped as well as having shifted in tone from one of a more common sense/psychological basis to a huge New Age feel to them.  That’s when I began to do some research and write what I have written.

Of course, I have taken flack for anything that I’ve said about Mr. Smart through a few of his “loyal followers”.  What has stood out to me in all of these reader’s comments are that they appear to be defending Mr. Smart and his alleged spiritual content while spewing out hatred and dislike towards me and my pieces that are my own opinions wrought from my research and own thinking.  These very people have little, if any, tolerance towards anyone who isn’t writing glowing reviews of Mr. Smart’s work.

While I have published and responded to most (some were too raunchy for anyone’s eyes  to publish and I have therefore, deposited them in the trash bin) of the negative, taunting commenters (yes, I know the net is filled with these types), I recognized one thing.  For all of their proclamations of Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) having taught them to love and be more spiritual people, that’s not what I’m seeing in their comments.  More to the point, they don’t feel the need to respond once but, several times each or, until I shut down any further banter with them.

It’s become increasingly apparent that Mr. Smart evokes the apostolic side of people in a cult-like fashion.  These people are out to defend their leader.  Equally apparent is that though Mr. Smart has been marked as a Spiritual Guru to many, that spirituality definitely does not show through in these specific commenter’s words.  There is no trace of tolerance for anything that isn’t pro-Mr. Smart’s video and, there’s little mincing of words that show despise towards anyone who might not find Mr. Smart quite as brilliant as they find him to be.  Perhaps, these Infinite Waters Diving Deep Apostles have a thing or two to still learn about being spiritual?

May I ask those who will think about commenting to me about my pieces on Mr. Smart, have you read other author’s books on spirituality?  If you have, then while you may find it easier to listen to the Youtube videos that Mr. Smart has knocked off, one after the other (notice how he’s bringing out videos in November and December with trees full of green leaves in the background and often, wearing the same clothing as the ones previously done) you’ll also notice that Mr. Smart tapes his pieces several at a time and releases them in spaced intervals.  While some will argue that it’s an intelligent way of doing things and why not do it that way, for me, it brought up questions and I did the research, including re-watching older videos of his and comparing them.  It was there that I recognized that he has developed a marketing plan for himself, not teach the masses as some would say he’s trying to do.

Let me make one thing perfectly clear.  I have no hatred, jealousy, dislike or whatever these commenters can throw into the mix, towards Mr. Smart.  As a matter of fact, I think he’s one brilliant business man who sought out to make money in a non-c0nventional way.  No 9 to 5 job for that bloke as he has stated several times throughout his videos that he didn’t want to do.  My hat is off to him for finding a way to pay his bills, amass a gaggle of followers who find him so mezmerising.  I also have nothing against someone making money off of something that they do so, we needn’t go there any further.

What I am seeing though in these types of commenters are comments that do not reflect what they allege Mr. Smart is teaching them.  You have your point of view and I don’t care about “the cat down the road” (as Ralph Smart) would say who doesn’t agree with my point of view but, then again, Infinite Waters Diving Deep has delved deeply into how to not care what anyone else thinks, hasn’t he?  My question would be then, why the need to comment with such venom if you have been following his teachings?  You also shouldn’t be caring about “the cat down the road” while following the “7 Day Vegan Challenge” as both should be freeing you from the ties of societal expectations, right?

Enough said.  From my little corner of life, Mr. Smart/Infinite Waters Diving Deep, is nothing but another person who has figured out a marketing ploy to capture a million or so people into his following and, the nastier comments that are coming from some of his loyal followers are those more indicative of those who have fallen prey to a cult-like following but, not getting the messages he’s giving out.  That, to me, is saying that either these viewers aren’t listening to what Mr. Smart is preaching or, they are only taking from him what suits them.  Which is it?  Think about that for a moment or two, please before you start pounding out hate-filled, angry comments on your keyboard towards what is being said here.  This is the last piece I will write on Mr. Smart as he has enough advertising or marketing of himself as it is.  He needs no more.


By the way, we are ALL “Alchemists and Infinite Beings”.

PEEEACE….Love and Light.



Banning Menthol Cigarettes To Stop Kids From Smoking?


This is a photo of a kid smoking marijuana in Canada…the land where the government does nothing to kids who do this in public but, are banning menthol flavoured cigarettes as an alleged ploy to stop kids from smoking. Make sense to you?  It doesn’t to me.

The Canadian government (and, likely other governments around the world) are determined to “save us” from our health issues apparently.  They are now banning menthol flavoured cigarettes.  Why?  Because they say that menthol flavouring cuts the harshness of cigarette smoking and therefore, appeals to kids.

First off, let’s get this straight.

The Canadian government/Health and Welfare Canada has been alleging to want our welfare/well being in mind in all that they do but, are they really or are they backwards, misguided and have an agenda that has nothing to do with the public’s well being?

Look at the fact that there are many convenience store owners who will sell cigarettes to kids no matter what.  What are they doing to those creeps?  If a kid is determined to smoke, they will find a way to get cigarettes one way or another.  A flavour isn’t going to make or break that idea.  Crack down on the illegal sellers and they stand a bit more of a chance.

Secondly, by removing menthol flavoured cigarettes from the market, Canada’s governments are effectively removing the rights of other adults to have their choice in spite of the fact that kids will smoke no matter what they do or don’t do.

Thirdly, they are toying with the idea of legalizing marijuana, a substance that has been proven to be as dangerous, if not more dangerous than cigarettes.  Not only do joints hold  almost the same number of both irritants and carcinogens during the burning process that cigarettes do but, the smoke is inhaled and held much more deeply than a cigarette.  That doesn’t touch upon the impairment abilities of reefers that now hold equal to or above 40% more THC (the psychotropic ingredient responsible for the high and impairment) than the versions smoked in the 1960’s and ’70’s.  Add to it that there are NO current roadside testing capabilities yet available that will hold up in court on a DUI charge and, you’ve got a recipe for total disaster.  That danger holds not only for the pot smoker but, also for everyone else in society who may fall victim to an impaired person’s ability to cause an accident of one kind or another, vehicular or otherwise.  How caring is that to people’s wellbeing?  It’s not.

Next, we have those who wish to try to quit smoking.  Drugs intended for this purpose such as Chantix, come from Big Pharma and Big Pharma is finding out daily that the list of side effects, including suicidal thoughts and possibly suicides, are possible outcomes for their drugs.  They are a form of antidepressants which doctors are handing out like candy for every ailment from true depression to menopausal symptoms and now, smoking cessation.  While they claim Chantix is non-addictive like other anti-depressants, try coming off of any anti-depressant and see what you face while trying.  It’s hell.

Most of us who have had a few attempts at quitting, know that quit-smoking aids like patches and gums, lozenges etc., are useless as well and another product of Big Pharma which pays governments huge sums of money, not to mention the perks it gives docs for attending seminars, seeing their reps and prescribing their meds (and, yes, they say that it’s illegal but, it happens all of the time still as I have friends who work for doctors and see it happening on a regular basis.  They even look forward to the lunches, dinners, gifts etc that they receive from the Big Pharma reps).

So, what are smokers doing to try to quit?  They’re turning to “vaping” or “E-cigarettes” to get the vapour hit as well as the nicotine and hopefully lower the amount of each as time goes by.  What is the Canadian Government doing?  It’s putting in laws that won’t permit people to smoke these things except in places where regular cigarette smokers can smoke.  If that’s the case, someone who vapes, is simply going to go to the same place people smoke cigarettes and light up a regular cigarette.  Why not?  The government is thereby saying that even vaping cannot be accepted.  Oh, but we’re going to legalize weed and until recently, Ontario Premiere, the great and powerful Kathleen Wynne, was going to allow medical marijuana users to light up wherever they were.  What about their second hand vape/smoke?  She’s seemingly re-thinking this one.

Most of us know that smoking is bad for our health.  If we don’t know, the fact that three quarters of a pack of cigarettes or better, are covered with graphic photos and warnings as well as a little card inside each package, stating that cigarettes are harder to quit than Heroine, might just tip us off to the fact.  We don’t need a mother/father in Canadian governments to ground us or take away our rights to tell us that.  However, the idea that kids can run around with guns, killing each other and innocent by-standers faster than any cigarettes could possibly kill and nothing is being done about that, speaks volumes for the brains that call themselves “governments” in Canada.

Call me nuts but, I’d much rather take my chances that a few more kids might take up smoking (if they can scrounge up the money for the astronomical sin taxes already added to cigarettes) than to take the risk of being shot and killed or permanently disabled by a kid with a gun where nothing or very little happens to them because of the Young Offender’s Act and the “code of silence” where people don’t rat out other people.  I’d also much rather take my chances of a kid taking up smoking than seeing one killed instantly in a car crash by a DUI under the influence of marijuana.

However, that’s just me and my thinking from my little corner of life.


Christmas Is Cancelled This Year


Christmas is coming up, fast now.  If you’re Christian, you know what I mean and you’re feeling the pressure building.  If you’re not Christian, you have your holidays and can empathize.  However, this year, I’m feeling nostalgic as well as rather lost in a lot of ways.  In a way, while emotionally draining, I’m not feeling the stress that I usually feel.  I will explain what I mean by this statement but, I’m thinking that The Kranks (Christmas With The Kranks)   likely had the right original idea in skipping Christmas altogether and taking off for a tropical vacation.

First the lack of stress…with visions of The Griswolds in “Christmas Vacation” dancing through my head.

I used to be the accommodating family member who would take over all of the holiday meals and would shop for everyone until there were gifts galore all over the place.  I could barely stand up the day after Christmas and would have a nervous break down when the credit card bills started coming in the end of January.  It would take me months of penny scrimping and creative meals, no buying anything not needed 100% to dig us out of that financial nightmare.  Yes, we were saps.

Over the years, the family has diminished, not grown.  Most of my family has now passed away as has my husband’s family members.  What little family both of us do have left now, are not or barely speaking to us.  You see, we started having to say, “sorry…no” to things.  Hubby and I used to be the biggest doormats around for everyone and let’s just say that no one liked it when we had to politely start setting some boundaries and saying “no” to requests for money, money and more money that we didn’t have to begin with and couldn’t help them out anymore.  Worst, was our own daughter who found herself a boyfriend and they wanted to smoke weed in our home, with our 3 young nephews present and we told them to take it elsewhere.  No one left, likes having us say, “sorry…we can’t” so, they’ve kept their distance.  That leaves us alone for Christmas this year.  I’m not sure if it’s sad or if I should rejoice as I won’t have to scrimp and save to pay off the bills this year nor, do the work for everyone to enjoy?

What I do know is that it’s making me think twice about being too giving from here on out and learning to set up boundaries.  People don’t seem to like the fact that we finally stopped being a bank service or allowing things that aren’t right because we feared the back-lash from them if we said that simple word, “no”.  We’ve found that out and it was a shock at how they reacted to it.  It’s amazing how much people will take and appear to care when they are getting what they want out of you but, put the plug in the giving and they suddenly stop caring about you altogether.

We’re not quite sure what we will do for Christmas this year and, don’t get me wrong, it’s not relished by us that people have taken on this attitude with us but, it’s an eye opener to know that we were always considered not much more than a wish granter and morons to any of them. Their true colours and motives have shown through, including during a recent health issue where I required surgery and not one person bothered to pick up the phone to ask how I was feeling even when it didn’t go well.  Sadly, I realize that in spite of being blood related, it doesn’t mean caring about us but, we won’t be going down the same path of giving and laying down for these same people to wipe their feet on any longer.

As Christmas approaches, we’ve put up our lights at the usual time with the rest of our neighbours.  We’re about to put up our Christmas tree where the cat will knock it down a few times or the dog.  We’ll go on about our days the best that we can but, our hearts will not feel the same about Christmas again nor, will they feel the same about these family members, including our only child who is now an adult and estranged from us because we finally had the nerve to say “no” to them all for differing reasons.

I don’t know what we will do this Christmas but, I do know one thing.  We won’t be in debt this year, over-worked or exhausted and eating hamburg 100 ways for the next 6 months to pay off those Christmas bills that gave everyone a wonderful Christmas which obviously wasn’t appreciated to begin with.

However, from my little corner of life, that may be something that will be a relief and perhaps, the best Christmas we’ve had in decades.  Time will tell and I’m about to search for places to go have dinner out and make reservations.  Ahhh…to not have to shop, clean, set up, cook, serve, clean up and wear myself out this year.  That might be a nice change of pace.  In other words, Christmas as we knew it, has been cancelled this year.  I might like it.



Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) Has NOTHING Over You


Commenters have often asked me what it is that I have against Ralph Smart, known as “Infinite Waters Diving Deep” on Youtube.  My answer has centred around the idea that Smart charges an obscene fee for a one hour session with him that has no definition after he’s hooked people in with his Youtube videos but, gives no definition as to what this session includes.  More to the point, I have yet to find anyone, anywhere or any proof that he is as he claims, a psychologist.  That leaves the entire session idea as a vague trust issue.

Here are a few things that I’ve come to know about Youtube’s “Infinite Waters Diving Deep”.  Anything that I say here is purely from my own research and represents my own opinion and nothing more. However, before you idolize this young man, think about what I’m saying here and why. Form your own opinions and if you have information that I don’t have, please don’t hesitate to pass it along to me, with credible sources please.  I would be only too willing to change my opinion if there were to be something to change it.

First, he was born Ralph Okafro-Smart March 3, 1986.  That makes him 30 years old as of March 3, 2016.  Did you realize that you were listening to and taking advice from such a young man?  Many have wondered about his age.

It takes a lot of digging to get information on Smart.  It’s not readily available for a reason not unlike The Great and Powerful Oz in The Wizard of Oz.  Pull back that curtain and find an ordinary man, pulling levers on special effects to make one believe that he’s more powerful than he truly is but, there is information about him if you do some detective work.  I will give him credit though. He’s being quite cagey in the past couple of years on how he’s marketed his latest persona.  Trust me, he’s tried many different areas throughout his life but, it seems that he’s found a way to make money with this latest role, character and persona.  I will give credit where credit is due.

He first gave himself the name Kemetprince1 (which is a name that came from Kemet, Egypt) on Youtube and later changed to Infinite Waters Diving Deep when he went down the path he’s on now, claiming to be a psychologist.

Smart started out a minister’s son, with parents who came from Sierra Leone, West Africa.  He started his combined degree in Criminology/Psychology at the age of 17 at the University of Westminster, graduating with an honours B.A.

The origins of his Vegan eating likely came from his history of being ill and hospitalized for a month and constant migraines and sinus issues.  It wasn’t necessarily due to some higher energy belief as it possibly was a discovery that eating differently made him feel better.  Anyone who has suffered with migraines knows that meats, especially red meatsa and processed foods, can lead to more headaches through preservatives and other additives.  His Vegan lifestyle also possibly stemmed from his reading about eating whole, living foods or anything that grows on trees or in plant form.  Migraine sufferers also know that meat contain a substance when kept in a fridge for several days, called “tyramine” which can produce the horrific headaches.  A sensitivity to dairy products can also create sinus issues so, his eating patterns likely have more to do with his own health issues versus some belief system though, he has turned it into one of metaphysics in his books and now, his Youtube videos.  One can hear his push for his books on this BlogTalk tape.

Make note in the blog talk tape linked above that Smart considers anyone who believes in religion as “ignorant”.

“Jesus, Allah…do exist…as entities”, Smart agrees with the host. “When people pray, they give their energy to the entity that they’re praying to. That entity then becomes a reality….giving it life.”

Is not believing in organized religion a bad thing?  Not necessarily as many people don’t nowadays. However, he also goes on to say that if people in ancient times were to concentrate on a piece of glass, they could lift it off of the ground with their minds.  I don’t know about you but, I’ve tried this concept many years ago on numerous occasions with others and it did not work. What were we doing wrong that the ancients knew about and we didn’t?

By the way, Smart agrees with the host that formal education is “lower level learning”.

He states openly that he read the book “The Alchemist”.  Could that be where he got the idea that he’s an “Alchemist”?  If that’s the case, aren’t we all “Alchemists” just like he considers himself?

Given what information is available about both Smart, his claim of being a psychologist and the actual requirements to call oneself as such in the U.K., it’s my opinion only that it’s seemingly impossible that Smart is an actual registered psychologist. It’s more than likely to me that he’s created this self-proclaimed title (as he has claimed to be a cinematographer, graphic artist and a few other titles that have nothing to substantiate any formal training in these titles) but holds no institutional or accredited merit as such.  Being a psychologist requires a Doctorate course and registration with the accredited society of psychologists in England as well as at least 3 years of clinical, supervised work.  To the best of my knowledge, (though I would be open to be proven otherwise) Smart never went beyond his B.A. status and besides being ill, travelled for his own pleasure, entertainment and intrigue. Therefore, his claims of being a psychologist are most likely not actually true. This point alone therefore, leads one to ask what his sessions are really based upon.  How can he “counsel” without that accreditation? Yet, he’ll make the statement that he’s a psychologist and let the person paying for the session, assume what they will about the session. If you notice, there’s no real description as to what his sessions are based upon that you’re paying him great money to give to you.  If you have found that information, please comment and let me know.  I’ve yet to be able to find it.

For one thing, Smart was busy making films in 2010 at the age of a ripe old 24 years of age and considered himself a cinematographer.  One such film is cited in this article.  It’s a film about freeline skating.

Right about now, you’re likely asking yourself, “ok so, what’s your point? What are you trying to say and prove by this piece about a guy I think is great?”

My answer is that I want you to think for yourself.  Smart (Infinite Waters Diving Deep) is one of many on the net who have an agenda that is not what you want to think it’s about. In spite of Smart’s display and words to the opposite effect, he’s not out to solely improve your life.  He may make money off of the illusion that he’s out to do this and it’s a plus if he does.  However, the more likely scenario is that Smart is out to make money.  More simply stated, Smart wants you to buy him, his books (yes, he has approximately 4 of them out now), his propaganda that he’s read in books like many of us and, most of all, he wants you to pay him for an hour’s session with him that is vague and downright non-defined as to what it is about or how he works.  He’ll charge you 350 British Pounds to do so as well.  Yet, he will state that he’s a psychologist as a separate statement, not combining the two as one entity.  That leaves one wondering what it is that Smart’s sessions are really about but, it’s an expensive act to find that out.  If you’re uncertain as to what one of his sessions will cost you, use this money converter.  In my part of the world, that now converts to approximately $592.00.  That’s a lot of bread as an experiment to spend when you don’t know what you’re getting, isn’t it?

Lastly, but not in totality, there’s a lot of scammers on the net.  As genuine as Smart may seem and perhaps, as genuine as he may think he’s being, Mr. Smart is no different than anyone else or any other website out there who is trying to get you to spend your hard earned money to put into his pocket and pay his bills.  Think about that.  He’s not out to be a philanthropist nor, is he altruistic.  Smart is out to make a living and a damned good one at that.  You won’t hear him saying that though.  He’s not about to tell you that if he can get you to pay for one of his sessions or buy one of his books or cd’s, he’s a happy man.  Also ask yourself if you want to take the advice as gospel truth from someone who was approximately 20 years old when he got his degree, likely went no further with his education, is likely not a true psychologist and started his career off as a film maker first and, only 30 years old as of 2016.

Remember one thing, please.  None of us here on this planet, have all of the answers.  Smart is no different than you are.  His only claim to fame is his smile, his calming, friendly persona on video, his having read a great deal of books and his ability to market himself well.  That’s it.  That’s all that there is to Smart but, it’s up to you if you have bought into it all or not.  That’s your choice.

From my little corner of life and experience, it’s “buyer beware”.  Be careful of who you buy into on the net whether it be me or someone else with a great advertising scheme like Smart.  Be your own advocate.  Do your own research.  Ask your own questions.  Read enough to figure out what you need to figure out.  Trust me, Smart has nothing on you that you don’t already have.  He’s just better at making you think he does.

Peace, love and light everyone.

(Addition Jan. 25, 2017:  I will NO LONGER be approving, reading or responding to any further comments on Ralph Smart pieces due to the raunchy and even threatening nature from the commenters. Please feel free to read and comment on the hundreds of other topics and pieces that I’ve written in the past 5 years instead. Thank you.) 



Enough Already Bring Back Gilmore Girls As A Series Again


I admit it.  I am a “Gilmore Girls-Aholic”.  I couldn’t get enough of them when they were on and now that I’ve watched the 4 season revival greedily like an addict, wanting a fix, I am left wanting even more of it again.  I’ve fallen off the proverbial wagon…or, was I ever on it to begin with?  Likely not. My internet bandwidth is telling me that Netflix has eaten through it while watching re-run episodes of the series over the past couple of years.  I even had to spring for unlimited net every month to do so.

Let me say that the 4 episodes of “A Year In The Life” was a thrill, a rush but, also quite disappointing and angering all at the same time.  That’s only sharing part of the emotions that they tugged upon as I cried, laughed and yipped with joy at seeing old characters show up on screen, even if only for a few brief moments.  What these 4 episodes didn’t do, was to “end” the series for me.  As a matter of fact, it only opened the door for me as a fan, for more.  It was like sticking a giant foot in the door and not allowing it to close.  As a matter of fact, it has opened the door wider and left me thirsting  for more.  I have questions galore now that beg to be answered through a regular revival of the show.

The best part of this feeling is that I’m not alone in my emotions and sentiments.  The net and social media have been going nuts, wanting more as well. A lot of us wished we had bought shares in tissue companies long ago and are left with an unsaturated feeling once again.  What we thought we’d accepted over 9 years ago, we have had reawakened and are left with even more questions that would open the gate to more, more and more Gilmore Girls.

I won’t get into more of the specifics as blogs, television and entertainment articles have endlessly covered the fact that these 4 episodes have left old and new fans wanting more. What I will say is a couple of things that I’m sure pretty much all die-hard fans alike are thinking.

First, we’ve got to hand it to Amy Sherman-Palladino and Dan Palladino for a brilliant series, set of characters as well as their coy, sharp-witted writing in these 4 episodes.  I hope that I’m right but, it’s my consensus that these 4 episodes were written to cause fans to want more. I don’t believe for a moment that ASP or DP intended this as an “ending”.  They had written the characters as unsettled within themselves, their relationships with each other, their lives and in a lot of instances, plainly strange.  The entire 4 episodes built upon strangeness of character within the cast and kept building until it felt like while familiar faces showed up, they were so far out of character that it left us all questioning a lot that was left unanswered by The Palladinos.

In brief, Rory had become a lost soul. She certainly wasn’t the intelligent, caring young woman that not only Lorelai had raised but, the Golden Girl an entire town adored.  She was actually rather secretive, lost, ill mannered, broken and following a lifestyle that we know Rory never would have followed.  The worst was the affair chose to have with Logan while knowing he was engaged, sleeping with him and not telling Lorelai.  The Rory we knew in the previous series never would have followed that along for longer than one time as a mistake.  She was far too wise and family driven to cheat for that long. (Yes, we saw her cheat with Dean once he was married one time and take the wrath of Lorelai’s disgust but, later apologized to her mother, admitting it was wrong of her to have done.) Yes, we saw Rory be led astray and into legal hot water, serving Community Service by Logan and his entitlement, rich-boy attitude and taking Lorelai’s anger and disappointment for that as well.  We could chalk that up to a teenager, being a teenager and learning lessons the hard way.  As a 32 year old woman who had been out in the world and growing up, we found it hard to see Rory not only continuing on with stupid choices with Logan but, also a “quickie” with a complete stranger, a “Wookie” while waiting in a line-up.  That wasn’t the Rory we came to expect as a “finale” for the show in these 4 episodes, let alone the fact that she is now pregnant and we can only guess as to who the father of the baby is as Lorelai is left with her mouth open, cut to credits to allegedly end the story line.

We were given quite the ride with Lorelai as well in not being herself.  The inn in question, Sookie gone, Michel wanting to leave for bigger and better, Lorelai not settled within herself in spite of knowing that she and Luke, the man she’d wanted to be with, was with her. She was still in search of self and acting uncharacteristically with that silly need for a hike down a trail from a book and movie.  She asks her mother for money to buy a new inn and looks at a place but, it’s left wide open as to whether she got it or how it would all turn out.  That’s not to mention her relationship with her mother, Emily Gilmore.  It was still rocky at best but, ice was melting between the mother-daughter pair.  What happens next?

Next was Emily Gilmore who seemed to go a little crazy after husband, Richard Gilmore’s passing where she called “bullshit” several times during her much beloved DAR meeting and left the group, moving to Nantucket after buying up a piece of property there and working as a Shock-Gore Queen Tour Guide in the local whaling museum, doing it with delight at guest’s repulsion.  What was Emily to do during winter months there? Would she stay? Would she get bored? Was that her forever home? And, what about her love life which might have just been beginning.  The Palladinos didn’t introduce a new man into the plot line for no good reason.  Even Lorelai was shocked at her mother having “a boyfriend”.

Last but, certainly not least, was Rory’s quizzical visit to Christopher, her father, to ask what he felt about Lorelai raising her on her own.  We know now why she made that visit and asked that question.  The final 4 words were both a shocker as well as the door opener for more Gilmore Girls to come.  Not only are the doors open but, now that we know that Rory is pregnant, lost, broke and has no direction, it has put fans on bended knees in wanting to know what is going to happen, how it’s going to happen, who the father is and what will become of Lorelai and Emily in all ways.  There’s far too much left open to future episodes that keep right up with the times and can rival all shows going in fan base, even surpassing it.  Gilmore Girls is a “cult”.  It’s got a grown fan base and is growing by the day, week, month and year as new fans come on board and old fans thirst for more Gilmore Girls.

About the only main character who seemed more or less settled in story line was, Luke Danes, Lorelai’s love and now, husband.  Even there, there are questions about his character left.

From my little corner of life, Amy Sherman-Palladino and Dan Palladino have played their cards well.  This was not an ending.  This was a beginning.  Now to get the Powers That Be to recognize that fact and for Netflix or some other network to pick up the cues that have been left behind like bread crumbs like Hanzel and Gretel left behind. It’s all leading to “smash hit” again.

And, Alexis Bledel (Rory) the sole hold-out not too enthusiastic over more Gilmore Girls unless the right story line comes along, rest assured that you have enough fans that there  will be a good story line for your character to follow. Rory has not ended her stint with fans.  She’s only just begun again.

Give us your thoughts.  Do YOU want to see more Gilmore Girls again now?