Debbie Reynolds Dies One Day After The Death of Her Daughter, Carrie Fisher…

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There’s no need to go through the list of credits for either the late actress/comedienne Carrie Fisher nor, for her mother, actress, Debbie Reynolds.  Their list of accomplishments within the entertainment world has and will be documented by many other sources.  What I wish to express is my deepest condolences to their family.

It was tragic to hear that Carrie Fisher had passed away at the age of 60 but, to hear that her mother, Debbie Reynolds, suffered a stroke while making funeral arrangements for her daughter and passed away only hours later and one day after her daughter’s passing, was both ironic as well as horribly sad news in such a rough year where many stars that we came to love and know, have also passed on both young and old.  There will be some hefty In Memoriams done during award ceremonies in early 2017 which may take up a good chunk of these shows.

While I was not truly a Carrie Fisher fan as much as I was a Debbie Reynold’s fan, I felt both of their losses and took them hard.  That’s not to say that I thought any less of the others in the entertainment business who have passed this year but, more because this appeared to be a mother-daughter bond that even death couldn’t break.

In spite of many tortured years between Fisher and Reynolds (Fisher taking blame for that estrangement by saying that she didn’t want to be Debbie Reynold’s daughter due to her famous mother’s stardom) they had found a way to patch up their differences and were finally able to be together, loving one another.

Sadly, Fisher had drug addictions over the years as well as mental health issues that were also part and party to her issues with her mom. Fisher had smoked weed from the age of 13 then, went on to Cocaine, LSD and possibly other drugs. It’s unclear as to how much she did at this time.  Years and even decades of their lives were ruined and wasted because of these issues.  Fisher, herself, admitted it openly in books she had written, stand-up comedy routines as well as interviews, including one done with Oprah Winfrey.

Reynolds had long ago openly stated that it was heart breaking to watch her daughter in such distress and not wanting her as part of Fisher’s life.  As graciously as she could, Reynolds stated that Fisher had pushed her away and there had been nothing she could do except to hurt.  It was sad for both of them as so much time in Life was wasted that could have been spent together.  The depths of mental health issues and drug addictions cannot be measured except in despair for all parties involved it seems.

What was certain was that Reynolds had been with son, Todd Fisher the morning of December 28, 2016, one day after her only daughter’s passing, distraught, overwhelmed and grieving to make funeral arrangements for Fisher when she was stricken with a stroke.  It was allegedly not the first one this year or last that Reynolds had experienced but, it was the one that would end her life only hours later.

Reynolds had stated to Todd that she just wanted to be with Carrie.  And, so it was.  Her passing only hours after her daughter, Carrie’s death, led her to what we all hope was a reunion of the mother-daughter duo.  Perhaps, there was a bond between mother and child that couldn’t be broken?  Whatever it was, son, Todd Fisher stated “she’s with Carrie”.

As family will now have to plan a double funeral for the pair now, it’s uncertain as to how it will take place or when but, suffice it to say that one can only hope that they are together and at peace, loving one another without condition right now.

From my little corner of life, as sad as it all is, I can see reason, justice, hope and a bond that couldn’t be broken by even death itself.  Prayers go out to their family left behind as they grieve both losses at once.  May they take comfort in the idea that perhaps, just perhaps, they are truly together right now.

 

Banning Menthol Cigarettes To Stop Kids From Smoking?

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This is a photo of a kid smoking marijuana in Canada…the land where the government does nothing to kids who do this in public but, are banning menthol flavoured cigarettes as an alleged ploy to stop kids from smoking. Make sense to you?  It doesn’t to me.

The Canadian government (and, likely other governments around the world) are determined to “save us” from our health issues apparently.  They are now banning menthol flavoured cigarettes.  Why?  Because they say that menthol flavouring cuts the harshness of cigarette smoking and therefore, appeals to kids.

First off, let’s get this straight.

The Canadian government/Health and Welfare Canada has been alleging to want our welfare/well being in mind in all that they do but, are they really or are they backwards, misguided and have an agenda that has nothing to do with the public’s well being?

Look at the fact that there are many convenience store owners who will sell cigarettes to kids no matter what.  What are they doing to those creeps?  If a kid is determined to smoke, they will find a way to get cigarettes one way or another.  A flavour isn’t going to make or break that idea.  Crack down on the illegal sellers and they stand a bit more of a chance.

Secondly, by removing menthol flavoured cigarettes from the market, Canada’s governments are effectively removing the rights of other adults to have their choice in spite of the fact that kids will smoke no matter what they do or don’t do.

Thirdly, they are toying with the idea of legalizing marijuana, a substance that has been proven to be as dangerous, if not more dangerous than cigarettes.  Not only do joints hold  almost the same number of both irritants and carcinogens during the burning process that cigarettes do but, the smoke is inhaled and held much more deeply than a cigarette.  That doesn’t touch upon the impairment abilities of reefers that now hold equal to or above 40% more THC (the psychotropic ingredient responsible for the high and impairment) than the versions smoked in the 1960’s and ’70’s.  Add to it that there are NO current roadside testing capabilities yet available that will hold up in court on a DUI charge and, you’ve got a recipe for total disaster.  That danger holds not only for the pot smoker but, also for everyone else in society who may fall victim to an impaired person’s ability to cause an accident of one kind or another, vehicular or otherwise.  How caring is that to people’s wellbeing?  It’s not.

Next, we have those who wish to try to quit smoking.  Drugs intended for this purpose such as Chantix, come from Big Pharma and Big Pharma is finding out daily that the list of side effects, including suicidal thoughts and possibly suicides, are possible outcomes for their drugs.  They are a form of antidepressants which doctors are handing out like candy for every ailment from true depression to menopausal symptoms and now, smoking cessation.  While they claim Chantix is non-addictive like other anti-depressants, try coming off of any anti-depressant and see what you face while trying.  It’s hell.

Most of us who have had a few attempts at quitting, know that quit-smoking aids like patches and gums, lozenges etc., are useless as well and another product of Big Pharma which pays governments huge sums of money, not to mention the perks it gives docs for attending seminars, seeing their reps and prescribing their meds (and, yes, they say that it’s illegal but, it happens all of the time still as I have friends who work for doctors and see it happening on a regular basis.  They even look forward to the lunches, dinners, gifts etc that they receive from the Big Pharma reps).

So, what are smokers doing to try to quit?  They’re turning to “vaping” or “E-cigarettes” to get the vapour hit as well as the nicotine and hopefully lower the amount of each as time goes by.  What is the Canadian Government doing?  It’s putting in laws that won’t permit people to smoke these things except in places where regular cigarette smokers can smoke.  If that’s the case, someone who vapes, is simply going to go to the same place people smoke cigarettes and light up a regular cigarette.  Why not?  The government is thereby saying that even vaping cannot be accepted.  Oh, but we’re going to legalize weed and until recently, Ontario Premiere, the great and powerful Kathleen Wynne, was going to allow medical marijuana users to light up wherever they were.  What about their second hand vape/smoke?  She’s seemingly re-thinking this one.

Most of us know that smoking is bad for our health.  If we don’t know, the fact that three quarters of a pack of cigarettes or better, are covered with graphic photos and warnings as well as a little card inside each package, stating that cigarettes are harder to quit than Heroine, might just tip us off to the fact.  We don’t need a mother/father in Canadian governments to ground us or take away our rights to tell us that.  However, the idea that kids can run around with guns, killing each other and innocent by-standers faster than any cigarettes could possibly kill and nothing is being done about that, speaks volumes for the brains that call themselves “governments” in Canada.

Call me nuts but, I’d much rather take my chances that a few more kids might take up smoking (if they can scrounge up the money for the astronomical sin taxes already added to cigarettes) than to take the risk of being shot and killed or permanently disabled by a kid with a gun where nothing or very little happens to them because of the Young Offender’s Act and the “code of silence” where people don’t rat out other people.  I’d also much rather take my chances of a kid taking up smoking than seeing one killed instantly in a car crash by a DUI under the influence of marijuana.

However, that’s just me and my thinking from my little corner of life.

 

Christmas Is Cancelled This Year

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Christmas is coming up, fast now.  If you’re Christian, you know what I mean and you’re feeling the pressure building.  If you’re not Christian, you have your holidays and can empathize.  However, this year, I’m feeling nostalgic as well as rather lost in a lot of ways.  In a way, while emotionally draining, I’m not feeling the stress that I usually feel.  I will explain what I mean by this statement but, I’m thinking that The Kranks (Christmas With The Kranks)   likely had the right original idea in skipping Christmas altogether and taking off for a tropical vacation.

First the lack of stress…with visions of The Griswolds in “Christmas Vacation” dancing through my head.

I used to be the accommodating family member who would take over all of the holiday meals and would shop for everyone until there were gifts galore all over the place.  I could barely stand up the day after Christmas and would have a nervous break down when the credit card bills started coming in the end of January.  It would take me months of penny scrimping and creative meals, no buying anything not needed 100% to dig us out of that financial nightmare.  Yes, we were saps.

Over the years, the family has diminished, not grown.  Most of my family has now passed away as has my husband’s family members.  What little family both of us do have left now, are not or barely speaking to us.  You see, we started having to say, “sorry…no” to things.  Hubby and I used to be the biggest doormats around for everyone and let’s just say that no one liked it when we had to politely start setting some boundaries and saying “no” to requests for money, money and more money that we didn’t have to begin with and couldn’t help them out anymore.  Worst, was our own daughter who found herself a boyfriend and they wanted to smoke weed in our home, with our 3 young nephews present and we told them to take it elsewhere.  No one left, likes having us say, “sorry…we can’t” so, they’ve kept their distance.  That leaves us alone for Christmas this year.  I’m not sure if it’s sad or if I should rejoice as I won’t have to scrimp and save to pay off the bills this year nor, do the work for everyone to enjoy?

What I do know is that it’s making me think twice about being too giving from here on out and learning to set up boundaries.  People don’t seem to like the fact that we finally stopped being a bank service or allowing things that aren’t right because we feared the back-lash from them if we said that simple word, “no”.  We’ve found that out and it was a shock at how they reacted to it.  It’s amazing how much people will take and appear to care when they are getting what they want out of you but, put the plug in the giving and they suddenly stop caring about you altogether.

We’re not quite sure what we will do for Christmas this year and, don’t get me wrong, it’s not relished by us that people have taken on this attitude with us but, it’s an eye opener to know that we were always considered not much more than a wish granter and morons to any of them. Their true colours and motives have shown through, including during a recent health issue where I required surgery and not one person bothered to pick up the phone to ask how I was feeling even when it didn’t go well.  Sadly, I realize that in spite of being blood related, it doesn’t mean caring about us but, we won’t be going down the same path of giving and laying down for these same people to wipe their feet on any longer.

As Christmas approaches, we’ve put up our lights at the usual time with the rest of our neighbours.  We’re about to put up our Christmas tree where the cat will knock it down a few times or the dog.  We’ll go on about our days the best that we can but, our hearts will not feel the same about Christmas again nor, will they feel the same about these family members, including our only child who is now an adult and estranged from us because we finally had the nerve to say “no” to them all for differing reasons.

I don’t know what we will do this Christmas but, I do know one thing.  We won’t be in debt this year, over-worked or exhausted and eating hamburg 100 ways for the next 6 months to pay off those Christmas bills that gave everyone a wonderful Christmas which obviously wasn’t appreciated to begin with.

However, from my little corner of life, that may be something that will be a relief and perhaps, the best Christmas we’ve had in decades.  Time will tell and I’m about to search for places to go have dinner out and make reservations.  Ahhh…to not have to shop, clean, set up, cook, serve, clean up and wear myself out this year.  That might be a nice change of pace.  In other words, Christmas as we knew it, has been cancelled this year.  I might like it.

 

 

Enough Already Bring Back Gilmore Girls As A Series Again

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I admit it.  I am a “Gilmore Girls-Aholic”.  I couldn’t get enough of them when they were on and now that I’ve watched the 4 season revival greedily like an addict, wanting a fix, I am left wanting even more of it again.  I’ve fallen off the proverbial wagon…or, was I ever on it to begin with?  Likely not. My internet bandwidth is telling me that Netflix has eaten through it while watching re-run episodes of the series over the past couple of years.  I even had to spring for unlimited net every month to do so.

Let me say that the 4 episodes of “A Year In The Life” was a thrill, a rush but, also quite disappointing and angering all at the same time.  That’s only sharing part of the emotions that they tugged upon as I cried, laughed and yipped with joy at seeing old characters show up on screen, even if only for a few brief moments.  What these 4 episodes didn’t do, was to “end” the series for me.  As a matter of fact, it only opened the door for me as a fan, for more.  It was like sticking a giant foot in the door and not allowing it to close.  As a matter of fact, it has opened the door wider and left me thirsting  for more.  I have questions galore now that beg to be answered through a regular revival of the show.

The best part of this feeling is that I’m not alone in my emotions and sentiments.  The net and social media have been going nuts, wanting more as well. A lot of us wished we had bought shares in tissue companies long ago and are left with an unsaturated feeling once again.  What we thought we’d accepted over 9 years ago, we have had reawakened and are left with even more questions that would open the gate to more, more and more Gilmore Girls.

I won’t get into more of the specifics as blogs, television and entertainment articles have endlessly covered the fact that these 4 episodes have left old and new fans wanting more. What I will say is a couple of things that I’m sure pretty much all die-hard fans alike are thinking.

First, we’ve got to hand it to Amy Sherman-Palladino and Dan Palladino for a brilliant series, set of characters as well as their coy, sharp-witted writing in these 4 episodes.  I hope that I’m right but, it’s my consensus that these 4 episodes were written to cause fans to want more. I don’t believe for a moment that ASP or DP intended this as an “ending”.  They had written the characters as unsettled within themselves, their relationships with each other, their lives and in a lot of instances, plainly strange.  The entire 4 episodes built upon strangeness of character within the cast and kept building until it felt like while familiar faces showed up, they were so far out of character that it left us all questioning a lot that was left unanswered by The Palladinos.

In brief, Rory had become a lost soul. She certainly wasn’t the intelligent, caring young woman that not only Lorelai had raised but, the Golden Girl an entire town adored.  She was actually rather secretive, lost, ill mannered, broken and following a lifestyle that we know Rory never would have followed.  The worst was the affair chose to have with Logan while knowing he was engaged, sleeping with him and not telling Lorelai.  The Rory we knew in the previous series never would have followed that along for longer than one time as a mistake.  She was far too wise and family driven to cheat for that long. (Yes, we saw her cheat with Dean once he was married one time and take the wrath of Lorelai’s disgust but, later apologized to her mother, admitting it was wrong of her to have done.) Yes, we saw Rory be led astray and into legal hot water, serving Community Service by Logan and his entitlement, rich-boy attitude and taking Lorelai’s anger and disappointment for that as well.  We could chalk that up to a teenager, being a teenager and learning lessons the hard way.  As a 32 year old woman who had been out in the world and growing up, we found it hard to see Rory not only continuing on with stupid choices with Logan but, also a “quickie” with a complete stranger, a “Wookie” while waiting in a line-up.  That wasn’t the Rory we came to expect as a “finale” for the show in these 4 episodes, let alone the fact that she is now pregnant and we can only guess as to who the father of the baby is as Lorelai is left with her mouth open, cut to credits to allegedly end the story line.

We were given quite the ride with Lorelai as well in not being herself.  The inn in question, Sookie gone, Michel wanting to leave for bigger and better, Lorelai not settled within herself in spite of knowing that she and Luke, the man she’d wanted to be with, was with her. She was still in search of self and acting uncharacteristically with that silly need for a hike down a trail from a book and movie.  She asks her mother for money to buy a new inn and looks at a place but, it’s left wide open as to whether she got it or how it would all turn out.  That’s not to mention her relationship with her mother, Emily Gilmore.  It was still rocky at best but, ice was melting between the mother-daughter pair.  What happens next?

Next was Emily Gilmore who seemed to go a little crazy after husband, Richard Gilmore’s passing where she called “bullshit” several times during her much beloved DAR meeting and left the group, moving to Nantucket after buying up a piece of property there and working as a Shock-Gore Queen Tour Guide in the local whaling museum, doing it with delight at guest’s repulsion.  What was Emily to do during winter months there? Would she stay? Would she get bored? Was that her forever home? And, what about her love life which might have just been beginning.  The Palladinos didn’t introduce a new man into the plot line for no good reason.  Even Lorelai was shocked at her mother having “a boyfriend”.

Last but, certainly not least, was Rory’s quizzical visit to Christopher, her father, to ask what he felt about Lorelai raising her on her own.  We know now why she made that visit and asked that question.  The final 4 words were both a shocker as well as the door opener for more Gilmore Girls to come.  Not only are the doors open but, now that we know that Rory is pregnant, lost, broke and has no direction, it has put fans on bended knees in wanting to know what is going to happen, how it’s going to happen, who the father is and what will become of Lorelai and Emily in all ways.  There’s far too much left open to future episodes that keep right up with the times and can rival all shows going in fan base, even surpassing it.  Gilmore Girls is a “cult”.  It’s got a grown fan base and is growing by the day, week, month and year as new fans come on board and old fans thirst for more Gilmore Girls.

About the only main character who seemed more or less settled in story line was, Luke Danes, Lorelai’s love and now, husband.  Even there, there are questions about his character left.

From my little corner of life, Amy Sherman-Palladino and Dan Palladino have played their cards well.  This was not an ending.  This was a beginning.  Now to get the Powers That Be to recognize that fact and for Netflix or some other network to pick up the cues that have been left behind like bread crumbs like Hanzel and Gretel left behind. It’s all leading to “smash hit” again.

And, Alexis Bledel (Rory) the sole hold-out not too enthusiastic over more Gilmore Girls unless the right story line comes along, rest assured that you have enough fans that there  will be a good story line for your character to follow. Rory has not ended her stint with fans.  She’s only just begun again.

Give us your thoughts.  Do YOU want to see more Gilmore Girls again now?